Here's the situation... Active duty married to Reservist.... Does it work?

Does it work? Sure, it works.....if you two can work at making it work. The issue that you'd run into is that where ever your spouse gets assigned, you will either find a Reserve unit within or near that area that has an open slot for your job skill and rank or not find one. If there is not one available, then you'd have to travel back and forth every month. Depending on the distance you travel, you could receive Lodging in Kind for a specific number of days and you'd get reimbursed up to $500 for travel expenses. If your spouse gets assigned overseas....that's where the real pain is.

I was with the 7th ARCOM in Germany. There were lots of drilling Reservists who's spouse was active duty. Works out just fine. Just got to make sure you have a good Family Care plan filed if you got kids. Other than that, I saw enlisted Reservists married to AD officers, the other way around, all seemed to work out just fine.

I did it for over 10 years. Reserve married active duty and then commisioned. Yes it is doable, even with kids (had 1 prior to marriage and a second 5 years in). There are considerations and decisions that you have to make that most parents do not. Family Care Plan is a must with children, and difficult to find someone when you are new to an area.
There are reserve units accross the US, in Japan, and Europe. You may have to travel further to your assigned unit, which is more time away from home, but doable. It is relatively easy to transfer between reserve units - it's just a matter of finding an open position for your rank and MOS/AOC (it is retention's job to assit you with this).
PCS is usually every 4 years, but aviation is a smaller field so you may not move as often. When either of you are gone for long periods, you would need to figure out the upkeep on bills, house, pets, etc.
If it is something you want to do, talk to your spouse and figure out a way to suppot each other.