How do I manage Family and Work?

Do what your wife tells you to do.

Don't bring too much class room work/studies to home and solely focus on that. I used to do a lot of work at home when I was an Executive Officer and I might as well just stayed in the office. Spend as much time as you can with your family. There is nothing wrong with studying for class but you must take time to be with family too. You will always have some conflicts but some can be managed well with changes.

The bottom line is communication.

Edit: Up-vote for asking advice instead of suffering silently.

Don't be too proud to ask advice or assistance.

Dear SN Pearson & Fiancee,

Make certain you spend some quality time together on as many days as possible.

Don't be engrossed by TV, computer, etc when falling asleep, talk to each other.

Try on your own but get help if needed to talk, fight, and decide issues together.

Don't make unilateral decisions! Don't lie!! Don't hit, injure, or wound each other!!!

Congratulations on your engagement. May you both be forever happy together. :)

Warmest Regards, Sandy

Make sure that you let your spouse know the demanding weeks to come, especially in NPS and NPTU. Make sure you have enough time to take care of your family, but not try to neglect your studies. It's very hard to figure out a good balance, but it will come in time. But most importantly, keep your wife happy. Happy wife, happy life.

Communication communication communication that cannot be said enough.
Make sure ahe understands the rigors if being a military wife(deployments,long hours,etc)
Get her plugged into the base family programs(she will be alone in a new place)
Make sure the time you spend is quality not quantity
Communication
Good luck

I have been in your shoes, newly married and headed to nuke school. Keep in mind marriage is not 50/50, it's 100/100! You both have to communicate and take time to understand what both of you are going through. Make sure she understands your schedule and extensive work hours while you understand what she goes through daily. It also helps for you guys to have a strong non-navy set of friends to give you a mutual outlet away from work.

SN Pearson,

First off, congratulations and I wish you a long and happy marriage!

After reading through the responses here I see a lot of wisdom, so there isn't much to add. Someone mentioned quality time over quantity time, and you'll see that is often what you'll be forced to do. My wife and I look at the short and long range training calendar and make plans, be it family time or husband and wife time. You'll be under a lot of pressure at school, so try to make your time enjoyable and fun for both of you.

As much as you'll need your wife to encourage and motivate you, remember to encourage and motivate her in her pursuits. Take the time to explain your duties to your future wife, why it's important, and how your success can benefit the both of you. Let her know how important she is to you, even if you can't always be home.

Unfortunately, there are going to be giant unavoidable conflicts. You'll be deployed for family events, anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, etc. You may be on duty odd hours. Remember those are only temporary conditions, so focus on the time you can spend together. Make that time special, make it count.

Worth repeating: COMMUNICATION

Work when it's time to work and spend time with your family when you're free from work. Never take work home unless you really really have to. It will be hard to balance sometimes but you gotta learn to set priorities.

Find (safe/legal) ways to unwind and don't forget about her your significant other.