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I have only PCSed twice in my 6 years, and I always have trouble meeting new friends at the new location. At my first, it took me nearly 2 years, and now at my second, I've been here 2 years and still not really developed any really close friends.<br><br>So how do YOU do it... how do you find that close friend or group of friends after you arrive and your new duty station?
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I guess I go TDY to get out of the house. If I didn't have that I would need to meet people.
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Being introverted, I tend to make friends only with the personnel I work with. My wife is the extrovert, so most of the friends we have that are not from my unit come from how she associates with people on and off post.
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I'm beginning to think my wife and I are both introverts... I'm an outgoing introvert, but I think I'm still an innie...
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How about the 1st Fridays at the Officer or NCO club /restaurant on post, that is where we NCOs normally socialize.
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SFC Russell,
Here that would be 1. the DFAC, 2. the Bowling alley, 3. Burger King, or 4. the Italian MENSA (DFAC)...
or POSSIBLY the Old Soldier's bar...
at any rate, I've never heard of this practice here on post, so either I've just never met the right person to get invited, or they don't do that here...
Here that would be 1. the DFAC, 2. the Bowling alley, 3. Burger King, or 4. the Italian MENSA (DFAC)...
or POSSIBLY the Old Soldier's bar...
at any rate, I've never heard of this practice here on post, so either I've just never met the right person to get invited, or they don't do that here...
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SGT it is not your job to make friends. Meet your soldiers and learn your mission. But you still want to find women? Go to church on or off post. Always worked for me.
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SSG McLain,
BLUF (just to raise the hackles of some here on RallyPoint): Church is good but didn't pan out at my duty station.
Of course, it's not my "job" to make friends. Any human being, regardless of their occupation, needs social interaction (perhaps Military Servicemembers more than some) to provide an outlet. Not only do we need a means of corporate entertainment, but as pack animals, we also need to belong to a community for our mental, emotional, and spiritual health.
I do not need to "find women". I have more woman than I can handle at home already. My challenge is finding someone I can relate to man-to-man - someone to have boy's night with and go bowling or "drinking" or out to eat (just the two of us, or better still, on a double date with our wives).
Off post church (as I may have replied elsewhere) is usually a great option. At my last duty station (from whence the OP came) there were very few English-speaking churches around (we were in Bella Italia for three years). We tried several, but never managed to settle into one.
Now that we've moved back to the States and I've transitioned to the Reserves, we have high hopes that we'll find a place to plug in and share our gifts, and in the process, perhaps we'll meet some folks with similar interests and become fast friends.
BLUF (just to raise the hackles of some here on RallyPoint): Church is good but didn't pan out at my duty station.
Of course, it's not my "job" to make friends. Any human being, regardless of their occupation, needs social interaction (perhaps Military Servicemembers more than some) to provide an outlet. Not only do we need a means of corporate entertainment, but as pack animals, we also need to belong to a community for our mental, emotional, and spiritual health.
I do not need to "find women". I have more woman than I can handle at home already. My challenge is finding someone I can relate to man-to-man - someone to have boy's night with and go bowling or "drinking" or out to eat (just the two of us, or better still, on a double date with our wives).
Off post church (as I may have replied elsewhere) is usually a great option. At my last duty station (from whence the OP came) there were very few English-speaking churches around (we were in Bella Italia for three years). We tried several, but never managed to settle into one.
Now that we've moved back to the States and I've transitioned to the Reserves, we have high hopes that we'll find a place to plug in and share our gifts, and in the process, perhaps we'll meet some folks with similar interests and become fast friends.
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I try to build a good relationship with my new peers and good understanding and communication with my subordinates. Afterwards, I simply look to network with anyone with valuable resources, skills, and information.
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Join local Meetup clubs and find people with similar interests. Church is another option of a softball league. Meetups are everywhere by the way but that is how you can do it, plus VA events.
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I hand out friendship bracelets to everyone I in-process through. We wear them in uniform under our sleeves and its our secret club.
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SSG Burns,
I can only assume that this is tongue-in-cheek... I do see the people I in-processed with from time to time, but they are all in other units, spread out in the satellite facilities, so rather infrequently...
I can only assume that this is tongue-in-cheek... I do see the people I in-processed with from time to time, but they are all in other units, spread out in the satellite facilities, so rather infrequently...
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