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Recently, I asked some rather innocuous questions about benefits. For that venture into thought, I was dressed down. Some did this a bit more severely than others. However, the fact remains. The best way to handle a situation like that is to take it in stride. Ask yourself is this verbal encounter simply to tear you down or perhaps to toughen you up for when it really matters?
Never let someone else's words tarnish your own opinion. If you have a voice and a stance on something, yes, voice it! Be prepared to either defend it or at least to be able to consider another person's point of view.
Sometimes, you can be wrong. Guess what? Several people are wrong at one time in their life. Even the other side against your argument could be wrong. This is why it is important when facing criticism in the military to be brave and also to be strong.
The conviction to hold my head up high comes from my commitment to the United States of America. A great country where yes, we may disagree but ultimately the things we do agree will forever unite us against our true foes.
Heated arguments can be easier to deal with if you let your cooler head diffuse the animosity. By having compassion for the person who is criticising you, you open yourself up to hearing them properly and you also weigh their words as important. Often, someone yells or berates, when what they really want to do is say, "I need you to be better, not perfect"
Always remember that across branches, and even to our civilian allies, America 1st.
Never let someone else's words tarnish your own opinion. If you have a voice and a stance on something, yes, voice it! Be prepared to either defend it or at least to be able to consider another person's point of view.
Sometimes, you can be wrong. Guess what? Several people are wrong at one time in their life. Even the other side against your argument could be wrong. This is why it is important when facing criticism in the military to be brave and also to be strong.
The conviction to hold my head up high comes from my commitment to the United States of America. A great country where yes, we may disagree but ultimately the things we do agree will forever unite us against our true foes.
Heated arguments can be easier to deal with if you let your cooler head diffuse the animosity. By having compassion for the person who is criticising you, you open yourself up to hearing them properly and you also weigh their words as important. Often, someone yells or berates, when what they really want to do is say, "I need you to be better, not perfect"
Always remember that across branches, and even to our civilian allies, America 1st.
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I typically assume that people who can't express their opinions (or correct someone) without berating them have other issues going on in their lives. I try very hard not to lose my cool with people. It happens some and is even warranted some, but for the most part I try to stick to this Bible verse.
James 1:19b "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,"
James 1:19b "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,"
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A1C Ian Williams
The purpose of that essay SSG William Jones is to help my fellow servicemen who could use a friendly reminder that sometimes you have to take the high road instead of letting others bring you down. I always recommend that you should be respectful to those who outrank you. Especially if they disrespect you, do a leg sweep to your ego and demand you stand back up again. Understanding where a superior officer or NCO is coming from is sometimes vital to healing conflicts and making sure that information is relayed properly.
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A1C Ian Williams
SSG William Jones - It may seem serious if peers leer at us but don't forget it's them you should trust.
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SPC Margaret Higgins
A1C Ian Williams - I disagree, my Love. I don't believe that one should trust those who leer at one.
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I believe that if you are unable to handle words, harsh or otherwise, then you probably chose the wrong vocation in choosing to serve in the military.
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A1C Ian Williams
if we were at complete staffing capabilities, SGT Joseph Gunderson we would not need to even have this conversation. So yes, the military is open to anyone who loves their country. I wrote the essay to help our present generation of servicemen. I applaud your strength. Please share it with those who need it as any hero would.
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SGT Joseph Gunderson
In all honesty, you statement is horribly false. Service in the military is not open for all those who "love their country". If this were so, then I would still be in uniform today. The military is open to those who are fit to defend this country. I have no problem coming to terms with being deemed unfit and subsequently retired for my deficiencies just as others must come to terms with the shortcomings that will or should keep them from serving or being successful in their service. If you are physically weak the military is not open for you. If you are mentally fragile or deficient (this includes being hurt by words), then the military is not for you. If you are crippled or have a biological impairment, the military os not for you. The military may be all volunteer in this country but that does not mean that it takes all comers. People are turned away all the time. Sadly, there are still those who male it through the cracks. The guys who are unable to pass a PT test consistently, those unable to deal with hardship, and the emotionally weak find their ways into the ranks. They are usually found out and it is the job of leadership to get them out at that point. Sugar coat it all you like, but the military is no place for the soft of mind, body, or heart. If words upset you that much because they are spoken with harsh terms or tone, please hang up your uniform and leave the job to those who can hack it. And I broadcast this message to all.
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SPC Darren Coffenberry
SGT Joseph Gunderson - I don't understand how this answer fit into the original question, other than you trying to be an asshole...excuse my language, but he said he asked questions about his benefits...if a superior or otherwise cannot answer a simple benefits question, then that is downright pathetic. When you lead , you lead to better those who you are leading , not to better yourself and make others look and feel stupid...toughness in the military only gets you so far...without a competent mind and squad to follow, you are shit.
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