If you Conceal Carry a Gun what is Your Personal ROE?

First rule, if I can escape, I will. Especially when I have my kids. My husband and I usually both carry and decide before we go out who takes the kids and who stays to fight. I can run faster, so I get the kids. ;) but seriously, escape and call 911. Help where and when I can. It's California. I may be 100% right and still get sued and go to jail.
But, I would rather be judged by 12 than carried by six. My life and the life of my kids is priority one.

if in the response of violence against yourself or others then use it as a last resort, case in point had a good friend savagely beaten, dragged out and shot to death in broad daylight, i wish i could've been there, she was a good person and a great nurse

Protect if myself or others if we are in fear for their lives.

If the situation escalates to the point that I have to draw one of my concealed weapons, then someone's going to die. And it's NOT going to be me. Not unlike the military ROE, the need must be great and substantial before YOU raise the stakes.

This is what I told both my boys when they each got their CCP, so I'll use this analogy; if you can stand in front of the victim's family and sufficiently convince them that what you did was both legal and necessary to prevent further injury and/or loss of life, then pull and fire. If there is another viable solution you better come up with it in the blink of an eye. Plan your fight, and fight your plan...

COL Mikel J. Burroughs, By law, my non-resident AZ CCW permit is not valid (even though I qualified on the M9 pistol in the Army). At any rate, you may or may not see me carrying even without a valid NJ permit. I have open-carried in PA from time to time (mainly because I didn't have my CCW permit then). Nevertheless, I am still apprehensive about drawing here in NJ since I have no valid permit (we req a justifiable need to get a permit and no, stating "personal protection" or "all lawful purpose" doesn't qualify). I refuse to do so unless it's an immediate threat that needs to be ended. All in all, I've only had to draw my gun once from within the household when someone was pounding on the main door after 1030 at night. Person ran away after I turned the mini flashlight on and shined it through the window.

In my state a warning shot could land you in jail.

I will only use mine if I, or anyone within my AO, is threatened with injury or death as a result of someone else's use of potentially deadly force. And I always carry. Or as Patrick Swayze said in "Roadhouse" .... "Be nice until it's time to not be nice" ....

Develop a mindset of calm awareness, it is surprisingly simple to de escalate a situation by walking away. This takes both a level head and the ability to put personal safety before ego. Being aware lets you avoid potential conflicts, being calm helps you deflect possible escalation.

That being said, I would only draw if there was a clear and present lethal threat to myself or my family, and only if I had already made the decision to engage.

My personal philosophy on EDC is to have it and not need it rather than need it and not have it. My wife and I both refuse to be victims in the off chance that we are caught off guard. Most importantly, having a comprehensive understanding of local, state, and federal laws as well as committing to remain up to date with training is imperative for anyone who carries whether concealed or not.

I'm not sure, but whenever I'm in a place where conceal carry is legal. Very few problems exsist.
I did have to draw my weapon back in 2000, we were all asleep, and my wife woke up to some noise she was hearing outside the house. It was summer time so all of our windows were open, she woke me up saying she heard somebody outside of my front door, so I went to the front door and notice the door knob turning slowly. I back tracked to my bedroom to get Ruger p89
I went back to the front door and just when the door was about to give, I snatched the door open and stuck my gun right in his face. I shouted at him and asked what was he doing? He passed his pants. I told my wife to call the police, he began to run away, that's when I let one loose over his head. I picked up the shell case and told my wife, what ever you do don't tell the cops I shot at him. The police came to the report and left and that was that

"When my life or family is in life threatening imminent danger, that is when. Or, stay alert, stay alive.