In 2019, why is it inappropriate for enlisted and officers to date or marry with consequence?

Best move in this matter. Remove yourself from the socialistic military lifestyle. Become a productive American citizen. Date and marry whomever you wish. Even better! You do not have to remain among hourly employees. You can marry the Dept manager just work in a different department. Productive civilian employment pays little attention to hourly (enlisted) salaried(officer) interrelationships. If one cannot separate their personal life from their employment one will find themselves at the unemployment office. Difference between military/civilian leadership. One is convinced they are members of the aristocracy. Never allowing themselves to associate with common labor. This type of management can only exist by fear. The other requires true management skills. The ability to motivate or lead a free will employee to perform at their best (at any level of employment.) So the corporation may continue in maintaining a profit. This is a twenty four hour, seven day a week, three hundred and sixty five days a year challenge. For the competition is working just as hard to put your employer out of business. Thus, returning to the original comment. Civilian management cares less than a tinker's damn about whom one is dating or marrying. Military leadership????? has nothing but time on their hands writing manuals on whom/what a mare enlisted may or may not date/ marry. The choice is yours to make. Best of luck on a long and happy married life.

Same reasons its bad for supervisors in the civilian world to date employees. Perception of impropriety and favorite treatment. Also its just better common sense not to date in your work pool if possible. There can also be accusations that someone is only in the relationship because they pressured into it ..with the disparity in money/authority.

Rovenia,
Unless it has changed since my retirement, it was an offense not to be over looked. I kind of understand to an extent why fraternization has been deemed as inappropriate. If your spouse were to interfere with your orders, position on things, or refuse to follow orders there could be dire consequences come of it. That rule was even enforced in the USAR as well. At one point it was required for one or the other to ETS from the service. I am not sure if that has changed or not.

Because dogs don’t $hit where they eat.

Because in 2019 there is no compelling reason to toss all rules and regulations just because the end of the year ends in a 9.

All good answers preceding this. One other example (of why not) not previously mentioned.
So the married (or long term dating) didn’t work out and now there’s separation and/or divorce. And it’s not amicable. It’s bad enough that the two couldn’t live together at night. How are they going to live together during the day?

My apologies for part of my first post. I faile to see the R. In either case it can be very awkward and restrictive of future assignments, even tempering promotions.

If policy’s are followed a relationship would not have developed in the first place. However, there are circumstances where it is appropriate, such as the relationship preexisted military service, and a few others. The bottom line is that such relationships are very awkward often calling into question integrity and decision making. There are many more examples, but as I said unless orexisting a relationship should not develop making both parties wrong.

Thank you for your service.

1. We have a hard enough time about Favoritism in the service without that. 2. Exactly how many folks would put their wife/girlfriend in a shit detail (literally) or send them out on point?

All great answers, I recall many years ago when I was stationed in Gitmo, being a Navy photographer, I took a LTJG Nurse's Bupers photos. I was a single E4 and she a single 0-2 I had asked her to take some model type photos and she agreed, while doing those images, we discovered that we had many things in common and were roughly the same age. At the time, 1971, there were no females, except for Navy nurses, stationed on Gitmo. We discussed dating, and might have pursued that course of action if stationed anywhere in the states or elsewhere overseas. Gitmo was a much too closed, and close, community to even attempt it. So even knowing the consequences sometimes over-rides common sense.