Posted on Aug 17, 2017
On lonely nights, would you trade all your military honor injury PTSD back for that warm friendship of that fiance you lost as a result?
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20 years pass reflecting. Simple amazing dreams sacrifice commitment come with loss confusion. What is more important in the end? Did I serve to lose all I hold dear ability to hold develop intimate relationships? Would the x be proud of the new warrior you seeking growth from ashes, new dreams from the loss, a great sad amazing honor test of strength revival belief love development risk depth?
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Never. I've been married and divorced twice and my only regret is that I chose women who weren't strong enough to stick it out through everything. My military service is a part of who I am and always will be; I wouldn't have it any other way. And I will more than happily wait around for the woman who can handle all the baggage that comes along with my past, because that's the one that will be worth a damn.
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PO3 Aaron Hassay
SGT,
I really like how you handle it. I am more proud then ever to grow through my military experience head on, and develop my personality, the loss, then the growth, then the knowledge that there is something far better ahead.
The loss was for a reason to learn and make better.
I ask one question. What do you do to improve yourself?
I was really tore up, so I needed and still do a lot of rebuilding.
4 yrs into it I am light years ahead in places I never thought possible.
Strength is developed.
I really like how you handle it. I am more proud then ever to grow through my military experience head on, and develop my personality, the loss, then the growth, then the knowledge that there is something far better ahead.
The loss was for a reason to learn and make better.
I ask one question. What do you do to improve yourself?
I was really tore up, so I needed and still do a lot of rebuilding.
4 yrs into it I am light years ahead in places I never thought possible.
Strength is developed.
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SGT Joseph Gunderson
PO3 Aaron Hassay - To improve yourself, that's easy. Never become stagnant. Keep moving, keep growing, keep changing. There is no place in this world for someone who becomes stuck in their ways or mode of thinking. Evolve with the time and situations that you are placed in. This also applies to your love life. It is a rare thing to find someone who accepts every single thing about you when you meet. You must be willing to compromise. Maybe change up a routine or something. I'm not saying give your personality a 180 but there isn't anything wrong with learning a few things and taking ijnto account how much it means to your partner.
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PO3 Aaron Hassay
SGT Joseph Gunderson - I still laugh a bit.
But my second fiance would ask me to go to Yoga with her. But I always said no. She would leave.
I finally got VA psychiatric after her.
I am doing Yoga by myself now after my back went out completely a few years ago.
Now I know what I was missing.
But now she is gone.
But my second fiance would ask me to go to Yoga with her. But I always said no. She would leave.
I finally got VA psychiatric after her.
I am doing Yoga by myself now after my back went out completely a few years ago.
Now I know what I was missing.
But now she is gone.
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I guess I view it differently. I don't look at what I sacrificed but what I gained. We also choose to be who we are and how we act. We can decide to allow meaningful relationships or not. I am not saying it is easy, but it is our own choice. I live my life in the present looking to the future. My past has many bad and good things about it, but that isn't who I am. Those experiences helped shape who I am, but they do not define me. I am who I decide to be. I act how I decide to act. I can dwell on the past or I can live in the present looking to the future with hope. I choose the latter.
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PO3 Aaron Hassay
What do you do actively to make positive change in your life? I am really working out my formula for positive change.
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SGT David T.
PO3 Aaron Hassay - Start small. Don't focus on the big picture. Sure, look at it and determine the goal, but then focus on each little step. To use a metaphor, don't focus on the mountain, just the next couple of steps. Then things get more manageable. After a while of doing this, it gets easier and the bumps in the road don't slow you down too much.
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It seems beautiful women are bountiful eye candy movie screen. New set list. New plays. Some want to be in the scene with you. Be patient for that. Be proactive for that as well. Be valuable to yourself then they will find you valuable as well.
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