Posted on Sep 5, 2015
Should enlisted be allowed to date officers in another unit?
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I don't see anything wrong with it. Make sure your ADULT enough to keep rank out of your personal life. Also, make sure their in separate commands.
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yes and yes, I did it in Japan for 3 years, no one cared, heck everyone was doing there own thing anyway under the table so it really didn't matter just don't do it in public or somebody is going to tell on you since most of the guys and women were children and taddled on you if you did something they didn't like, but I say yes, if they are not dating anyone and they like you go for it. No point your life should be miserable that no one in your paygrade like you but another paygrade shows interest in you and want to talk
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Unless i'm mistaking they can.
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I have know many....many....many an enlisted who was not only dating but was married to an officer. I think you may be looking at the regs through very small blinders. Or as is probably the case.....the medical field is just to light hearted when it comes to interpersonal relationships and allowed it to happen....at every base I was stationed at....in three different commands.
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Have also seen it happen in the SF world.....basically there is a burden of proof that needs to be met that there has been misconduct or prejudicial actions......touchy at best......Assumed since your questions said "another unit" the Chain of Command was not an issue in the relationship....
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SMSgt Tony Barnes - I dont think MSgt Ronald Stacy is mistaken, it was allowed when I was in to date a service member from another unit but frowned upon. I know this for the simple fact that my LT was dating (as I stated earlier) a SPC from a maint Unit. Our command ranted and hollered but in the end was told by IG to back off the good man and let him be.The response from my command was they stuck the LT on every crappy job they could find to keep him away from her and even went as far as denying him to go to ranger School after he came down on DA select list not only once ...but twice. Wound up having his father ( a 2 star ) make an appearance and squashed the CO permanently. So no sir, he was not mistaken.
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PO1 Javid Benson
family comes before honor, if someone says you cant hang out with your on family then there lies a problem
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CW3 (Join to see) - I was in Vietnam 71 -72 when my brother came in country. I could have gone to Germany and started a 3 year tour there or be reassigned from DaNang to Saigon. I chose the latter and lived in the BOQ with my brother.
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Thirty years ago, a Black female AF lieutenant was called on the carpet by her commander because she was dating a SSGT (also Black). As she explained to the commander, there were no unmarried Black officers on the installation, and if she wanted to date someone of her own race, he would have to be enlisted. (They married shortly thereafter, which solved the problem, because the commander could hardly order her to divorce her spouse.) They both eventually left the air force. Edit: they weren't in the same unit.
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Well the answer for me is IT DEPENDS on the situation and the context
1.) If they are married and one goes to OTS then its ok as long as they are never in the same chain of command.
2.) If they 'Hook up" in the same unit and get married...foul.
3.) If there is a chance they would ever serve inthe same unit like a loadmaster and a pilot or navigator...not a good idea.
4.) If they get married and one gets out of the service then ok.
Overall, probably not a good idea but if they do they need to know and accept all the consequences like geo separation, deployments etc...I know personnel center does not advocate for join spouse for Enl/Off as a matter of fact they will not work it unless it is a priority for both with command sponsorship...IMHO you can't stop it but they definitely cannot be in the same unit or local chain of command.
1.) If they are married and one goes to OTS then its ok as long as they are never in the same chain of command.
2.) If they 'Hook up" in the same unit and get married...foul.
3.) If there is a chance they would ever serve inthe same unit like a loadmaster and a pilot or navigator...not a good idea.
4.) If they get married and one gets out of the service then ok.
Overall, probably not a good idea but if they do they need to know and accept all the consequences like geo separation, deployments etc...I know personnel center does not advocate for join spouse for Enl/Off as a matter of fact they will not work it unless it is a priority for both with command sponsorship...IMHO you can't stop it but they definitely cannot be in the same unit or local chain of command.
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