The "high road?" Using the edit feature to essentially delete and hide things they previously posted. What's the answer to this?

" In combat, good judgement comes from experience; unfortunately, experience often comes from bad judgement ! ! ! "  ( Anonymous Author, Unknown Date )We all deserve a second chance.  The two bun discussion lost its purpose long ago.  

The problem I have found with posting comments to threads, or sending/replying to emails, rather than speaking to someone personally is that it seems to mask the gravity of the situation at hand by taking the face to face confrontation out of it. Even, (and often), the little things can be very inflammatory. Words have meaning, I have learned the hard way myself that if I am commenting or replying to an email and feel emotionally inflamed, to draft what I want, then walk away for awhile. When you read what you have written in anger with a clear mind, you either delete it or change it.  Taking the high road should be accepting responsibility for your actions and learning from the experience. Pretending it never happened only 1) delays the problem from being resolved or 2) damages your credibility and usually both anyway.

<p>I will not comment on the original thread referenced in the opening of this discussion, but I will offer my "two cents" on the topic of taking the "high road."&nbsp; It has always been my understanding that taking the "high road"&nbsp; meant walking away from a situation in order to diffuse it, or because you know that any further discussion will only be detrimental and can end up with someone at either the position of attention, parade rest or the front leaning rest.&nbsp;&nbsp;An addition&nbsp;definition of the "high road" is realizing that before the point of no return.&nbsp; Once that line is crossed, there is no more "high road."&nbsp; </p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>I tell Soldiers all the time that words are important.&nbsp; Think about what you are going to say.&nbsp; Think about what point you are trying to make.&nbsp; Think about the possible ways that one may interpret what you are saying.&nbsp; Think about the second and third order effects of what you are going to say.&nbsp; Granted, that is a lot to think about before you open you mouth, or hit enter after you type a response to something, but it is important.&nbsp; Sometimes the difference between a very candid, pointed and beneficial discussion and something that takes a nose dive as soon as one opens their mouth or hits "enter," is thinking before one speaks.&nbsp; </p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>Just food for thought.</p>

That entire thread would been more useful if the whole EO piece and part about her CoC was never brought into it.  A discussion on the hair alone would have had the same effect with a simple, "Is this in regs and/or professional."  Everyone could have been spared a lot of dramatic posts, and some other people could retain some dignity.

I've made my mistakes. None as public, but mistakes all the same. I'm thankful for RallyPoint being a place to share these discussions. Additionally I would be willing to bet (with due respect) that the NCO has grown from the experience.

Or, mods should delete it, give a second chance for someone to move on. Do we kick each other when their down? Let me re-phrase that....SHOULD we kick each other when we're down? I saw the trainwreck, we all agree...it was a trainwreck, but lets delete it, and move on. Give a second chance....there is some rank there, rank which deserves some respect. Remember...just like all the annoying butter bars....it isn't the man/woman, it's the rank which we respect. We've all stuck our feet in our mouths. I've done it a ton. Let's delete the thread, and move on.<br>

Agreed! If you post something and you don't get the reaction you expected then maybe what you thought all along was actually wrong! Don't be embarrassed but learn and drive on. This is a great place to further your education and learn from experienced Soldiers and Veterans and get great ideas on leadership! I SAY HOOOOAH!

Agreed! If you post something and you don't get the reaction you expected then maybe what you thought all along was actually wrong! Don't be embarrassed but learn and drive on. This is a great place to further your education and learn from experienced Soldiers and Veterans and get great ideas on leadership! I SAY HOOOOAH!

On some forums, there is a time limit (15 minutes to an hour) during which you can make edits. That gives people the chance to go back and fix mistakes without being able to go back and change posts based on the answers they're receiving. Perhaps something like that would help?