What are your thoughts on inviting your CSM to a sporting event?

CSM (Join to see) I have another question and I will take advantage that the topic is related. As you already know, I'm older than most of my peers, Soldiers of my age (32) are already E6-E7. I've been told that there is a 2 ranks up and down cap to socialize with other Soldiers. In my case is a little uncomfortable since the older Soldier in that ratio is like 24. Would it be inappropiate to spend some time with a SM that outranks me, even if he is not in my Company? I will appreciate the response.

SGT(P) (Join to see) First off there is no such thing as a "two ranks" up thing. That's some made up nonsense. You can read AR 600-20 para 4-14 and determine what you think a relationship between a NCO and junior enlisted Soldier actually is according to the Army.

According to the regulation..."Examples of familiarity between Soldiers that may become “undue” can include repeated visits to bars, nightclubs, eating establishments, or homes between an officer and an enlisted Soldier, or an NCO and a junior-enlisted
Soldier, except for social gatherings, that involve an entire unit, office, or work section". I would say that you are violating the regulation and are unduly familiar with a NCO.

That's by the book in my interpretation but, there are other factors the regulation does not take into account. I am an older PFC and my wife and SFC Snuffy's wife work together at the PX and have become good friends. SFC Snuffy isn't in my unit, and through our wives we have met several times and get along pretty good. Personally I don't see a problem with that, I am not a big fan of the Army telling me who I can or cannot be friends with. As long as you're not calling each other by first names in uniform and you are rendering the proper customs and courtesies while on duty, who fucking cares...like I said that is my personal opinion so don't go telling your CSM that a SGM told you it was ok to hang around with the SMA.

CSM (Join to see) - Mike that was a great example. I ran into that all of the time with my wife, who is Korean. She figured that all of her friends' husbands could/should be my friend also. I had to explain to her, many times, that just because she has a friend that is married doesn't mean I should/could or want to be friends with their husbands. Most of the time it was because of rank sometimes I just didn't like them.

CSM (Join to see) thanks for the response and the reference. You cleared all my doubts about it. Have a great morning!