What defines you as a service member?

I think this changes with time. Over the years, at times, I've considered myself a Soldier first. Today, I'd have to say I'm a father first. Kids change a person in ways that you can't predict when you're single and care free without kids. I think my best accomplishments in life are the kids that I've raised, far exceeding (and outlasting) anything I'll ever accomplish in the Army.

I knew all along military life would be my life. I really wish I could start over again. I retired in 04 and miss it every day. My only regret was not staying active duty instead of going reserves. Truthfully I can't say what I am first. I feel like a part of me is missing.

Devotion to duty and fair recognition (as compared to civilian positions)

OK, that's deep. I know when I started out, I was a student first and a Soldier second, but as time went on (and really not that much time) I became a Soldier first and always; even as a Reserve Soldier. But like 1SG Chris Brown stated, this changes with time. I realized a few years ago I had spent my life putting the Army before anything else in my life. I had to reassess my priorities and finally put my family first. Maybe it means no more promotions, but I'm good with that, because for me, there are more important things than rank.

Great question, Mark! Somehow I feel I was destined to be a SM and having been one serving 20 I feel I fall into the once a SM always a SM. Its such a big part of who I am. Like 1SG Chris Brown though, being a husband and father - there's no words to describe it, even on the toughest days. IMHO, you're nurturing your replacement(s) to take over for you. Through all the trials and tribulations you always remember they are part of you, born out of love.