What do you believe is responsible for the disconnect/lack of understanding between the general public and the military?
Then when people do find themselves fortunate enough to meet a genuine veteran, their image and reactions are shaped by the misconceptions that are instilled by movies of a violent peson, who can't readjust to society, is likely suffering from PTSD, who does not value human life at all.
It is a total lack of common reference. Even my wife, who has been my rock for the past seventeen years I've been in uniform, can't truly understand what we experience on deployments and in combat. That is why the VFW, American Legion, and, yes, even Rally Point are so popular. It's a place to go where the other person understands.
I once had an anti-war protester ask me why we don't just sit down and "talk things out with the Taliban and Al Qaeda." I asked her if she had ever traveled to the Middle East and she said she "couldn't possibly see how that would make any difference." I attempted to explain that the truly radical members of these groups (the ones causing the majority of the problems) considered an infidel like myself to be less than human and unworthy of sitting at the same table with them. She replied "that is the silliest thing I've ever heard! People are all the same!" See, no common frame of reference.
1) People in the military tend to come from families that have a tradition of military service.
2) People that come from families without a tradition of military service formulate their opinions based on Hollywood caricatures of the military. They believe that 2000lb Bombs are "surgical" instruments and that any casualty was killed or injured on purpose, or could have been reasonably avoided with no impact on mission or loss of friendly forces.
3) People that come from families without a tradition of military service formulate their opinion of the chain of command based on Joe Sackodonutz opinion. Joe got a GOS/BCD/DD. But IT WASN"T HIS FAULT!. The chain of command was always out to get him. They were jealous of how smart he is.
4) Military directness, work ethic, and intolerance of extraneous BS makes many non-military employees uncomfortable.
Meanwhile, the military is becoming the smallest it has ever been. Fewer and fewer people are joining, and those who do are more and more coming from military families. There are many, many civilians who have never personally met someone in the military, and that number is only going to increase as more of our WWII and Korean War veterans pass away.
That, and the fact that so little of the population joins the military anymore that very few civilians even know someone in the service, especially if they don't live near a base.

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