Posted on Oct 11, 2014
MAJ Deputy Director, Combat Casualty Care Research Program
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Thought I would add this as a separate topic to the "pro choice/life" discussion in case anyone else has experienced the same...

My (now) 2 yr old was born dead. He was on ECMO (heart lung bypass) for 10 days and wasn't getting better. We were told that he would most likely die and, best case scenario, would have severe to moderate cerebral palsy - meaning a life in a wheel chair. At the time, I said, "look for organ recipients" and lets end it. My wife is a catholic and wouldn't let me do that. He's now 2 and running around like a maniac with no issues.

My point in this rant - be careful of your choices. I'm very pro-choice, but sometimes our beliefs get in the way and we make choices because it's what we "believe" vs reality. Be cautious of things like right to die and do not resuscitate. Don't end up on the wrong side of that choice. Atheists can be as wrong in their beliefs as religious people.
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MAJ Deputy Director, Combat Casualty Care Research Program
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CW5 (Join to see) I've heard from magicians that people with the most education are the easiest to fool. We "think" we know. People with the most "beliefs" are also the easiest to fool. As a medical guy, I thought I knew what was best with my son - let him die. All the docs at Georgetown said the same. This is a lesson in how much us "professionals" know.
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Great "story" (in quotes because it's your life, not really a story). It's wonderful that your son came through the ordeal healthy.

I'm pro-life (anti-abortion), but I agree with you that beliefs can get in the way. You know the anecdotes, similar to yours, actually. I was recently reading about Tim Tebow and how people were pressuring his mother to abort him, I think because she was not really in a position to care for a child. She fought back the pressure, and he turned out to be a somebody.

And I've seen it go the other way as well. A good Army buddy of mine and his wife had no reason to believe there would be any issues with their second child. She came into the world with severe Down syndrome. She's 21 now, but can't walk, can't talk. They are Catholic, and they held onto their faith as they raised their daughter. I can only imagine the sacrifices they had to make and the struggles they had to go through.
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I was off on the Tebow "story." It was a medical condition and the doctor recommended an abortion. His mother refused.

http://www.beyondtheultimate.org/athletes/Tim-Tebow.aspx
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Jennifer Lee (Doerflinger) Hill
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Tough times, but I remember having one of our babies in the hospital & our sweet GP talked with us as we left, saying this one little baby's Mom hadn't been in even once to see her Down's baby. He said then, something that has resonated all the rest of my life: These babies bring so much joy to their family. They're a gift from God.
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SSG Pete Fleming
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MAJ Ian Dews, it takes courage to go through what you did but even more to share it so that others might gain from your experience. May you and your family forever be blessed with the gift and the opportunity you have been given. Thank you for sharing.
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