Would you adopt a child?

After years of playing the infertility game, we did two adoptions which turned out to be full siblings. Funny that we're all in Cali for their Grandma's funeral. I'd advise checking out your options carefully. Agencies first priority is perpetuating the agency, not finding kids a good match. Private adoptions come with significant risk. We did the hybrid, i.e. a facilitated adoption by professionals who ensure the process is properly run. Also there are adoption friendly and adoption adverse states. California is a bad one with birth mom "rights" run amok. She can change her mind down the road and grab the kid back. We were in Washington and adopted out of Oklahoma. Oklahoma has a 72 hour rule for changing your mind so it's best to pick the kid up afterwards where there's no legal recourse. Also adoption between states has the Interstate Compact Commission involvement too so it's not a "Legal Zoom" type thing you'll do.

Yes my wife and I have talked about it many times

Between my wife and I three out of sic=x kids were adopted.

I grew up in a family with very loving parents, they raised their own 8 children, and they took in foster children, they took in the kids that nobody else seemed to want, you know, teenagers, and children that were labelled trouble-makers. As an adult, I had 3 of my own children, and I adopted 4 children. I love each of my 7 children equally, as if they are all mine, biologically. Nearly 2 years ago, 1 of my adopted children died, I still grieve for him, and cry for him, every single day. Nobody seems to understand the bond I had with him, I get told frequently that he wasn't even one of my "real" kids and that I should get over it and just move on. He was just 5 when I adopted him, so, what exactly makes a child your "real" child? As with all of my children, I fed him and clothed him, when he was sick, I took him to his doctors and made sure he took his medication as prescribed, when he had nightmares as a child, he crawled into bed with me, when he had any type of problem, he came to me, because his "Real" mother told him she wanted to abort him, so when I heard she had put his little sister up for adoption, also, I adopted her, as well. You can't possibly know how much it means to me that every time we talk she tells me how grateful she is that I'm a part of her life, because, she says, that I am the only real parent she has ever had

Kids are something that two people need to be totally honest about while they're dating. If one "gives up" their want to be a parent that will spell trouble for the marriage down the road. But for those who want children and cannot have them.... then adoption is a dream come true, well, for those that can afford it. That is unless you are willing to adopt out of your local DSS pool of kids... then they almost pay you to take them and in some cases give them money for college and medical care as well. Our next door neighbors adopted 3, a brother and two sisters all in one swoop... instant family, and they're doing great.

My husband and I knew when we were dating that neither of us wanted children and we have never wavered in our desire to remain child-free.

Thirty years ago, my then wife and I desperately wanted to do so, but Catholic Charities in Kansas City flat out told us, "You read the wrong Bible."

My wife and I have discussed adoption or fostering, but--and some may call this an excuse--we're looking to do it when I don't have my current 1/1 OPTEMPO.

We've even started the educational process to foster in our home county, and came to the conclusion that though we feel compelled to contribute, we also know our current limitations: I'm gone for half the year, every year (not counting schools and PMT), and my wife is a DA Civilian.

Our adult kids wish we'd get on with it already!

I adopted a girl. She is my daughter and I love her as much as my biological children. It wasn't easy but in the end, the best thing that can happen to their/your lives.

My wife and i almost did. One of her friends was havingva bad time of things and rather than strangers we decided that we would. But things worked out in the end.

Twice, and as long as you have the support of your wife because it will not be easy and once you have the child to refunds and no returns apply. So do our research right, there are many kids with issues..