Posted on Apr 17, 2017
How do you truly come to terms with the death of a friend?
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I learned today that two friends of mine were pronounced dead on the 15th. Different places, different circumstances, same day. Almost astronomical odds, right? Well, RP, how do you reconcile with that kind of news? I'm not going to lie, I'm hurting inside, and I really don't know how to accept this. One was a soldier. The other, a friend from school. So how do you come to terms with a tragedy like this? Any and all advice is welcome, but please, let's keep it professional, as this is a serious topic of discussion.
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Brother, I’m sorry.
A friend told me that you never get over the death of a close friend or family member. As if you lost your right arm, you will get used to writing with your left. That pain will never go away entirely, irrespective of the time and circumstances that will follow, and it never should.
Honor them on their birthday. Honor them on 15 April. Take a minute to crawl in a tight space and grieve, then carry on. If they are the kind of friends you find here, that is what they would expect you to do.
That’s a lot of simple advice on a very tough day. Again, I am sorry. Hang in there. Reach out if you need me.
A friend told me that you never get over the death of a close friend or family member. As if you lost your right arm, you will get used to writing with your left. That pain will never go away entirely, irrespective of the time and circumstances that will follow, and it never should.
Honor them on their birthday. Honor them on 15 April. Take a minute to crawl in a tight space and grieve, then carry on. If they are the kind of friends you find here, that is what they would expect you to do.
That’s a lot of simple advice on a very tough day. Again, I am sorry. Hang in there. Reach out if you need me.
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MSgt John McGowan
I lost my Dad over 15 years ago and I sure would like to talk to him. My family, the ones that raised me, Mom, Dad and Brother are gone and I am left. I think you just learn to live with it.
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SPC.. Any way you approach something like this it will be hard going for a while. Several years ago I lost 3 family member in 11 months. Two within 17 days, close family. I was in shock the first month or so and did some pretty dumb things. Not trouble mind you. But I found out it helped to do something and talk, and talk so more. And I have set and listened to friends that lost their friend. So talk it out, stay busy and look at the better times. But stay positive, we are all closer to death every minute. Hang in Brother, you always got us. I am sure we have people with words that can help.
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I'll tell you what I do in such situations:
1. Let their family know I care and actively look for ways to assist with the grieving process.
2. Respect and remember him/her for what they did for you.
3. As a writer/vlogger/musician, I like to create content in remembrance that share my thoughts on our relationship
4. Remember you can't always stop it.
5. Remember it as a reason to begin/continue sending out those random emails/facebook messages/tweets/phone calls just to remind someone you care and love them while you still can.
6. Remember you're not dealing with someone's loss alone.
7. Think of the good times and lessons you learned from them and together when the tears roll.
8. I drink sometimes. You shouldn't do that, though. Try to find another vice that's not potentially career-ending.
Let me know if you need anything.
1. Let their family know I care and actively look for ways to assist with the grieving process.
2. Respect and remember him/her for what they did for you.
3. As a writer/vlogger/musician, I like to create content in remembrance that share my thoughts on our relationship
4. Remember you can't always stop it.
5. Remember it as a reason to begin/continue sending out those random emails/facebook messages/tweets/phone calls just to remind someone you care and love them while you still can.
6. Remember you're not dealing with someone's loss alone.
7. Think of the good times and lessons you learned from them and together when the tears roll.
8. I drink sometimes. You shouldn't do that, though. Try to find another vice that's not potentially career-ending.
Let me know if you need anything.
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