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SSG Warren Swan
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It all comes down to context. I've said that to folks also, but not in a means to justify a career path, but you see someone who's looks are "exotic" NOT erotic, or speaking a language you're not familiar with, I see nothing wrong with asking as long as it's respectful. My ex was born in the UK, raised here. Her family was from India. It was NOT uncommon to be around others from India and they ask what is her maiden name, and where is her family from. It's all about context, not the question itself. I see the same being Black. I'm northern as all get out, but some of my habits and likes are from someone who's southern as hell. So the question of where is your family from comes in and then you begin to get the picture, and I say usually "that's why we won the war" cuz my southern side of the house can't speak English or eat anything that's not fried or have gumbo mixed in it.
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Capt Tom Brown
Capt Tom Brown
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well said.
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SSG Jessica Bautista
SSG Jessica Bautista
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SSG Warren Swan More often than not, complete strangers with no reason to talk to me ask me this. This is usually followed by, "That's a good mix" or some reference biracial people as "mutts", which is unacceptable in polite company. It may be that I'm overly sensitive, I admit, but my experiences with race have shaped my views on it.
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SSG Warren Swan
SSG Warren Swan
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SSG Jessica Bautista - I'm not putting you down or even disagreeing with you. I nor anyone else can dictate to you what your life experiences have taught you. What can easily offend me on Monday could have you rolling in laughter on Tuesday and vice versa. In some cases you're spot on, but it all come down to context. Is the person asking being genuine or a complete and total ass? Looking at what you've said, I'm leaning on you having been with a LOT of the latter. BTW what's a "Good Mix". I get what is being implied, I'm being sarcastic to the question and would love to see the answer.
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SSG Warren Swan
SSG Warren Swan
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Capt Tom Brown - Thanks Sir.
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SPC Erich Guenther
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I'm never offended by either question. Though the "Did you play Basketball" question, just because I am tall is very, very irritating. As if I didn't play basketball........something has to be wrong with me.
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SSG Jessica Bautista
SSG Jessica Bautista
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So... Did you?
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PFC Jim Wheeler
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It actually annoys me sometimes when I ask where a person is from and they assume I mean ethnicity. I have always assumed it is from people being so used to that question meaning ethnicity that they tend to expect it, but I usually ask when someone says something that implies they are not from Texas (or they have an accent).

I don't generally ask about ethnicity, unless I hear someone speaking another uncommon language. It just isn't interesting or necessary information. I do like to talk to first generation immigrants about their native countries and why they chose to move to Houston, though (because Houston is a "shithole" lol).
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SSG Jessica Bautista
SSG Jessica Bautista
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For myself, the question always gives me pause because I didn't want to assume, but I always defaulted to the safer answer: "California". Lol
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PFC Jim Wheeler
PFC Jim Wheeler
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SSG Jessica Bautista I imagine the conversation can be very awkward when they respond with the "Oh, no. I meant where is your family from?"
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