How to Raise Boys to be Gentlemen in Today's World - Learning Liftoff

I have two boys (6 and 9) and try to set a good example for them. One thing I was told long ago that one of the best things you can do for your children is to love their mother. So along with that I do attempt to instill gentlemanly things according to their age. Every morning when I drop them off at school I tell them to be kind, be gentle, and help people. And while I take none of the credit for this, I will brag about it, last year my 6 year old was awarded "Most joyful" at school. This year he was awarded "Kindest".

I have opened doors for women my whole life and have had doors literally ripped out of my hand I presume by feminists who would not allow me to extend my respect and the courtesy of holding that door for them. I say Good Morning and Good Evening as my greeting of the day and smile my nicest smile hoping to get one back in return. I don't feel I am characterizing women as weak or needy of my courteousness and believe even a General officer would appreciate my Chivalrousness at the door to any building. It's called being a gentleman and I exercise that right to be polite every chance I can get. I can also say that my boys have grown up doing the same and I am proud of them for it too. Thank you!

Hmmm...so are you teaching by example that your daughter should just stand by a car door and wait for a man to open it for her? Are you teaching her that if a man doesn't do that, that he is somehow boorish and not a gentleman? What messages are you subliminally sending your daughters when you tell your son that he should do these things for women, versus for everyone.
I was raised to open doors for women as well. But even then (in the 60s/70s) the notion that a women should wait for a man to come around and open the car door for her and then run around the car to the driver side had started to fade away. Today, I open building doors for everybody if I am first to arrive. It would seem rude to reach a door, open it and walk through with people directly behind me. But I don't open it for only for women, and cut in front of men. It's just sort of rude to anyone, IMO.