Who Is Really the Problem Here? The Reintegration Battle

I'm a poor one to relate in some respects - no kids. But also I've had no problems with the wife either. Before I deployed, my wife paid the bills and such I consider this my freedom). I don't look at finances as a power trip like many do. We've always had our own likes and respect each other's time doing things apart. Maybe this is the key to our relationship - we don't need to be in each other's back pocket all the time. Jobs and hobbies do a lot to help, also being able to communicate. Yes we've had our problems, but in December we will be married 25yrs, so guess we've done something right.