Posted on Jul 16, 2015
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So I have had close to ten Soldiers of mine throughout my career that have had their wives leave them. Sometimes for other men, sometimes during deployment and sometimes for no reason. What I dont understand is if she leaves him for another guy, why does JAG make him pay her 2/3 of his housing allowance. She had a home, she chose to leave. Now this Soldier is forced to give upwards of 800 dollars to her. How does he afford to pay his current rent. I have taken my Soldier to JAG to figure this out and only get the "thats the regulation" answer. Even if the Soldier and their Spouse mutually agree to split why does the Army decide on a mandatory minimum? Maybe she makes more money and doesn't need it. Sorry if I offended anyone with the "she" being the Spouse. I just didnt want to write she/he everytime.
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PO1 Shahida Marmol
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That is ridiculous! If he has actually proof of infidelity, take her to a civilian attorney and file for divorce. She stepped out, so no waiting period is necessary. And she has no ground to ask for support.
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SSG Melvin Nulph
SSG Melvin Nulph
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Infidelity, adultery is no longer a reason for a divorce in some states. Something to think about, the law isn't always on your side in every situation, sad but true. Some even want you to wait 3 up to 6 months to file? Why, I have no clue. One judge asked what if he says I had to go through 6 months of marige councilling first, he granted it when I said I'll see him by morning on murder charges I don't play that and no one is going to play me with it.
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Ssg Melvin Nulph check out the Facebook page disgruntled veterans. Those guys are awesome and you would fit right in.
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PO1 Shahida Marmol
PO1 Shahida Marmol
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I can not stand women who try to take the guy for all he's worth. When I divorced i wanted nothing from him except physical custody of my children, but we'd still do joint custody. I needed out, I didn't need his things. I could understand if the woman followed the man his whole career putting her life/career on hold each time he PCSs but still at the end of the day I would have worked and saved money to be able to take care of myself if we split up.
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PO1 Shahida Marmol
PO1 Shahida Marmol
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WO1 Tim Vaclav - I think I'm like this because I've been taking care of myself since 15. I don't mind being part of a team, but I refuse to be dead weight. How can that man provide for my kids and be an effective father, if I run him through the mud and take everything he has, because I'm too lazy to work? It's not going to happen and it sets the wrong impression to my children.
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SSG Johnson, I will never know why JAG always defaults for the civilian. It might be time to get advice from a civilian lawyer. JAG will always protect the service first. The soldier needs to find a "friend" in JAG that will give him the straight skinny. Or time to find a civilian lawyer that might be willing to give advice pro bono. Or possibly LTC John G Shaw, MBA, JD. might be able to set you on the right track. COL Shaw is on RP and from what I have observed, he has his act together. Good luck. De Oppresso Liber. Tom
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MAJ Ken Landgren
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My ex cost me a total of half a million. It has taken me 10 years to start rebounding financially.
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SFC Mark Merino
SFC Mark Merino
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Agreed. No visitation allowed by her and no enforcement on the judge's part. I will be there for them always but AZ has left a huge turd in my mouth. I can't wait till they are 18 . Better late than never.
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MAJ Ken Landgren
MAJ Ken Landgren
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I feel sorry for you man, I really do. It's not easy dealing with a stupid, selfish, money grabbing, and vindictive person. Try to protect yourself from joint debt. Banks don't care about divorce decrees. You can talk to me anytime.
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MAJ Ken Landgren
MAJ Ken Landgren
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WO1 Tim Vaclav - I am here to make others feel good!
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MAJ Ken Landgren
MAJ Ken Landgren
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WO1 Tim Vaclav - If you act with pure intentions, it lessens regrets.
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