Posted on Jan 16, 2015
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With how busy so many Service Members are due to their military duties, it’s sometimes tough to ensure that our spouses are fully up to speed on rules and regulations that may be relevant to them, or to the time we spend together on the installation. Below, we list 7 of the most common “in-uniform rules” spouses should know.

Which ones would you change, and why? What else would you add to this list?

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1. PDA is typically prohibited, except for certain special situations.
Military regulations take public displays of affection (PDA) more seriously than many spouses realize, due to high standards for professionalism. Special situations like a return from a deployment MIGHT be acceptable circumstances for a quick “welcome home” kiss, depending on your chain of command.

2. My right hand is empty for a reason!
While in uniform, Service Members are typically expected to keep their right hand empty while in conditions that would require a salute, which is done with the right hand only. This may seem obvious to SMs, but many spouses do not know this!

3. I can’t talk on my cell phone while walking.
Talking on your cell phone while walking in uniform on base is one of the easiest ways to get jacked up as of late. It’s like putting a target on your chest. We’ve heard countless stories of Service Members witnessing a Senior NCO sprinting across the street to make this correction! Epic.

4. Why I say “no” when you offer me a piece of gum.
Many military units prohibit chewing gum while in uniform, especially while stateside. We’ve heard reports that this may vary depending on the military branch or command policy of the SM, including the degree to which it’s enforced. But just in case, it’s important to know this!

5. I can’t use an umbrella when it’s raining. Seriously.
Uniformed SMs typically cannot utilize an umbrella when it’s raining outside. They have wet weather gear for that, even though that gear still allows them to get soaked most of the time. We’ve heard reports that some female SMs may be allowed to use an umbrella under certain circumstances, and we also can’t confirm how strictly a SM’s chain of command enforces this. But beware that SMs using umbrellas is as squared away as a football bat.

6. Wearing my uniform items could get me jacked up, or worse.
This is a sensitive topic for some SMs, but there have been countless situations where a spouse wears the SM’s uniform items in inappropriate ways and is perceived as casting the military profession in a negative light. Enforcement of this policy also depends on the SM’s chain of command or installation policy, but PLEASE be thoughtful and considerate if you ever decide to put on your SM’s uniform items while outside of the home environment.

7. I still need to salute and greet while we’re together.
This aspect of the military profession occasionally irritates spouses, but when a SM is uniformed and on the installation he is still required to greet and salute IAW regulations, even if the two of you are enjoying a nice private walk together. This issue occasionally catches “new” military spouses off guard – meaning those who are new to the military culture, perhaps due to recent marriage or their SM recently joining the military.

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Which of these would you change, and why? What else would you add to this list?
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SPC Danny Eldridge
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When you and your significant other are at the PX or Commissary, or wherever on base when Retreat calls, why we freeze in our tracks and turn toward the flag. (I assume that's still the case, as it was 20 years ago when I was at Ft Campbell.)
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Cpl Vic Eizenga
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SP5 Lori Pong
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Cpl Vic Eizenga - I would almost guarantee that anyone saluting is either active duty, a vet or possibly ROTC. A law that allows saluting is absurd, as long as it's a show of respect there should me no need for a law.
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Cpl Vic Eizenga
Cpl Vic Eizenga
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SP5 Lori Pong - you are right but some of us old farts still felt the need to show respect and salute. now it is legal.
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Edward Samsen
Edward Samsen
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SP5 Lori Pong - Students just don't "get it" I render a proper salute during the pledge and national anthem in classrooms. Yes I stand at attentionand abserve students who are barely upright some that don't bother, they are clueless....many need a weekend 3 day bootcamp at MCRD to wake them up.
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SFC Mark Merino
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"I'm sorry Mr President, but have you read RallyPoint's top 7?"
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SP5 Lori Pong
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PO3 Manuel Serrano - I believe his duty is to protect and not from the rain.
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TSgt Gwen Walcott
TSgt Gwen Walcott
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PO3 Manuel Serrano - Yeah --- he IS protecting his CINC, even if not in the normally conceived way
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SFC Ken Heise
SFC Ken Heise
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Join the Marines they said. You’ll go to exotic places and meet cool people they said.
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SSG(P) Senior Driver/ Protocol Nco
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by this marines face, he is at the beginning faze of muscle failure in his right arm...
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MAJ Rn
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So gum chewing is verboten and yet Bubba gets to have a skoal dip in his mouth? Can someone cite regs on this? Muchas gracias from San Antonio.
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SP5 Lori Pong
SP5 Lori Pong
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CSM Charles Hayden Passed 7/29/2025 - So you just spit on the ground?
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CSM Charles Hayden Passed 7/29/2025
CSM Charles Hayden Passed 7/29/2025
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PO3 John Keas Dip cups ? For what? If you spit any out you are missing the pleasure!
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CSM Charles Hayden Passed 7/29/2025
CSM Charles Hayden Passed 7/29/2025
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CPL Kevin Thoeny Parade ground? I understood it to be a Parade Deck!
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PO1 Donald Hammond
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The gum rule is because most officers can't breathe and chew gum at the same time. So they are jealous of the enlisted man who can and must stop them at any cost.
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CPT Kriss Hinebaugh
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Yea I know you enlisted guys carried your gum on your nose.
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Yeah, I never got that. Why are the pockets there if we can't use them? Especially if we are cold!!!
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PO1 Kevin Dougherty
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Good One!
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CSM Charles Hayden Passed 7/29/2025
CSM Charles Hayden Passed 7/29/2025
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CPT Kriss Hinebaugh - I’have worn chewing gum in my ear! That. is an invaluable teaching tool!
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SPC Paul Rogers
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When I am talking to you on the phone and tell you "I gotta go." it means I gotta go not that it is time for you to ask me 20 questions "real quick"
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Kelsey Watson
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Married life in general means he expects to come home to dinner on the table and the house and kids clean. Women are to speak only when spoken to and to wear feminine clothing (think 1950s, complete with 3" heels).
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SPC Thomas Hobbs
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I would just hang up on her. She'd get mad, but I wouldn't get smoked.
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Brittley W.
Brittley W.
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haha I learned this real quick with my husband when I was so new to everything. Now when I get a call, I just expect it to be short because that's just how it is when he's on the ship. :) I'm getting a good laugh reading this thread because it reminded me so much of how little knowledge I had marrying into a military family a few years ago!
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PO1 William Van Syckle
PO1 William Van Syckle
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My wife understood all these things because she was a WAC when we met. No problems for us.....
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SGT Johnny Owens
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Uncle Sam didn't issue you a spouse :)
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PO1 William Van Syckle
PO1 William Van Syckle
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Hate to break it to all of you, but my wife was issued to me. We had orders that allowed us to get married back in 1975. Those orders were signed by the Sec Army and endorsed by Sec Def. I carried a copy of those orders in my wallet for years. So yes, your spouse could be issued to you.
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SCPO Bruce Watson Sr.
SCPO Bruce Watson Sr.
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I have the original Standard Navy Request Chit from 1967 that I had to submit requesting permission to get married. It has as a final signature on said chit the signature of a Rear Admiral (Clyde J. Van Arsdall). Close enough for me to think I was indeed issued a wife. Still married to that wonderful gal, 50+ years later.
Good reading on the Admiral:
http://valor.militarytimes.com/recipient.php?recipientid=21166
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
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SPC Anne Miller
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I think he did for me, lol!
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SPC James Mcneil
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Numbers 2, 3, 4, 5, and 7 seemed to always cause trouble for me. She'd ask constantly why I never carried anything in my right hand, even to carry items into the house from the store. I'd stop to take a call, and she'd keep going and get annoyed that I didn't do the same. Ditto for when I would refuse gum or an umbrella. Her mother said one time that I was "too stupid to use an umbrella in the rain." That went over well. And saluting never really goes away.
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Ronan Rillovick
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I'm confused. Why did they have such a problem with this? Hadn't you told them why you couldn't use your right hand, wouldn't use an umbrella, etc.?
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SMSgt Lawrence McCarter
SMSgt Lawrence McCarter
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A1C (Join to see) - Yes, that is true in any service but You are also told to avoid that if You can. I find after attending a Military Academy I already had the habit of leaving My right hand empty and it seems the habit stayed, to this day, without even thinking about I still do not carry anything in my right hand.
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SMSgt Lawrence McCarter
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Ronan Rillovick - My wife never gave Me any grief over any of those things She found sitting at functions with Military people and spouses on base they spoke a language She didn't understand with TDYs, PCS and other Military terms etc. but She learned because She wanted to. She was in full support of everything I did in the Military . If there was something She wasn't sure about She would ask Me and I would always answer that question. Her father a WWII Combat veteran instilled that in all four of His Children. He had them put up the American Flag in His yard each day and take it down at night and taught them all how to fold the flag properly and about the honors to the flag and national anthem. At My home My Dad also was a WWII Veteran and My Mom and I joined Him as Military Dependents during the Korean War.
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PO1 Training Petty Officer
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That's why my hubby goes to work in civies and changes there. No need to go to commissary or PX in uniform. Done.
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MAJ George Hamilton
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Please get rid of the hands in pockets rule in the same memo that you eliminate the umbrella rule. Both are absolutely ridiculous.
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Sgt John Koliha
Sgt John Koliha
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Unless you’re playing “Pocket Pool” there really is no real need to have your hands in your pockets. Even if you’re a civilian
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CPO Roswell Echols
CPO Roswell Echols
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In a situation when your CCW might be needed (not on base) you might want to put your hand in your pocket
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Sgt John Koliha - Nippy weather isn't a reason to have hands in pockets??
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Sgt William Gregory
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It's been 35 years since I served in the Air Force but back then the reg stated that if your hands were full , the proper way to address an officer was "Good morning , afternoon or evening sir" without saluting.
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It's sad it had to be someone like the CO who told him that. He wouldn't have listened to the Sgt. That's why I hate the ranking structure. It also divides us into social groups, like upper class and lower class, and creates an "I'm better than you" atmosphere which I hate. Why can't we all be co-workers that respect each other equally?
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PO2 Paul Van
PO2 Paul Van
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Hands full. yes but you had to be carrying something that REQUIRED two hands....
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CPO Darryl Rotherforth
CPO Darryl Rotherforth
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Interesting thread. I substituted as a Photographers mate during an installation ceremony and was required to use my left hand for salutes (there were MANY) during that period due to my assignment to photograph the event. I was reprimanded by a Capitan unfamiliar with that particular situation who was nearly immediately reprimanded by his Admiral for reprimanding me. I thought it odd that it happened within my earshot, but on later reflection found it gratifying to be included as otherwise I would never have known I was doing it right.

I was blessed with a number of leaders during my service and this was but one instance of good leadership preventing a small negative event from festering into a general lack of military bearing.
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SPC Human Resources Specialist
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I have many a time not saluted an officer because both hands were full. Got a funny look one time... I had a company guidon (the guidon bearer was running late, I was moving it from the commander's office to the motorpool for formation) in one hand, a thermos of hot chocolate in the other. I said good morning gentlemen... I'd salute but I prefer not to dump my hot chocolate on my face. The full bird standing next to the door proceeded to open the door for me.
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A1C Mike Simons
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I got chewed out by the base commander @ Lackland AFB for failing to salute his car when it drove by. His car drove by me while I had my jacket in my left hand & a cigarette in my right. By the time I figured out to drop the cigarette & salute, he had stopped & jumped out to meet me. He asked why I didn't salute. I told him "No one told me what to do about saluting while smoking!" He just grumbled and got back in his car.
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Technically when you smoke you are considered out of uniform and are not required to salute. At least that's the way it is in the Navy.
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A1C Mike Simons
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SN (Join to see) - Well Richard, I was just out of boot camp & wearing my OD greens.
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Sgt John Koliha
Sgt John Koliha
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Happened to me. Carrying seabag, garment bag and overnighter on the way to the bus. Saw CG - 2d MarDiv ( BGen Simpson) car approaching. Believing the hands full rule, I nodded and continued on. Driver slams on breaks, blasts out the door and runs over to me. Proceeds to chew my ass, while General looks on. I drop my gear, come to attention and snap off a salute the nearly dislocates my shoulder. Himself looks at me with disgust, makes me hold the salute for about 10 seconds before returning. NEVER made that mistake again.
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