Posted on Jan 24, 2023
How likely is my spouse to be charged with adultery and fraternization? What type of punishment should be expected?
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While I was deployed, I found out my husband was unfaithful and having extramarital affair with a Pfc from another unit. Him being a SGT. This was not the first time he was unfaithful to me prior adultery affairs. I gathered evidence, such as confessions from previous mistresses and pictures of him being unfaithful, such as kissing, hugging text
Messages showing him being affectionate, making comments like saying I love you to them and he’s so proud to have them as there are lover etc.
Now with this Pfc , I confronted her, and I let her know my husband was married to me, and that it would be smart. If she let us figure out these issues, and to leave him alone. this Pfc was around my child. She showered in my bathroom. She stayed in my house. She slept on my bed. She had sex on my bed. She sent me pictures of them with him on top of her, kissing her on the head and I was able to get pictures from her of them holding hands with his tattoos showing. He has abandoned me in order to be with this girl, and she claimed I was harassing her when I was asking her and begging her to leave my husband alone and let us figure things out on our own upon returning from my deployment. He and she continues the affair upon my return from deployment, and she lied to my commander about not seeing him yet she was caught with him the very same day she lied to my commander and claimed harassment.
The affair is continuing, but I don’t have any new evidence. My husband has been flagged for four months now and today he claims to have a second reading with his battalion commander.
During this whole investigation, I provided sworn statements with dates, timelines, pictures, telephonic confessions from the mistress ( she did not know she was being recorded) but it is legal in my state to record a conversation. How likely is my husband to be punished and what are the punishments looking like this has affected my mental health upon returning from deployment, knowing that I lost my entire family in my home due to the selfish actions of my husband and his private first class who knew what they were doing and had no remorse for the family I am now mourning. Not only is it affecting myself, but it is affecting our child as well..
Messages showing him being affectionate, making comments like saying I love you to them and he’s so proud to have them as there are lover etc.
Now with this Pfc , I confronted her, and I let her know my husband was married to me, and that it would be smart. If she let us figure out these issues, and to leave him alone. this Pfc was around my child. She showered in my bathroom. She stayed in my house. She slept on my bed. She had sex on my bed. She sent me pictures of them with him on top of her, kissing her on the head and I was able to get pictures from her of them holding hands with his tattoos showing. He has abandoned me in order to be with this girl, and she claimed I was harassing her when I was asking her and begging her to leave my husband alone and let us figure things out on our own upon returning from my deployment. He and she continues the affair upon my return from deployment, and she lied to my commander about not seeing him yet she was caught with him the very same day she lied to my commander and claimed harassment.
The affair is continuing, but I don’t have any new evidence. My husband has been flagged for four months now and today he claims to have a second reading with his battalion commander.
During this whole investigation, I provided sworn statements with dates, timelines, pictures, telephonic confessions from the mistress ( she did not know she was being recorded) but it is legal in my state to record a conversation. How likely is my husband to be punished and what are the punishments looking like this has affected my mental health upon returning from deployment, knowing that I lost my entire family in my home due to the selfish actions of my husband and his private first class who knew what they were doing and had no remorse for the family I am now mourning. Not only is it affecting myself, but it is affecting our child as well..
Article 15
Adultery
Fraternization
UCMJ
Posted 3 y ago
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Is it really worth it? He is obviously an a**hole. Move on, would be my recommendation. If you do get "revenge" and that is what I feel that this is and totally justifiable. I would drop it and take every penny you can from him. This would be more satisfying and help you and your child more than having him incarcerated or unable to be employed at any real job for his entire life due to a dishonorable discharge. Eventually you will heal, he will grow up, and there are many expenses in life for your child ie: wedding, college, life.......Just my thoughts, hope you're doing better and taking care of you!
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When I was in, late 80's, a missile school instructor 1st class got an OTH discharge over an affair with a student's wife.
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Ya know, one great thing about life in America is you can leave pretty much any situation at any time. Me, I could not do that when I was in jeopardy. Zero sympathy. Edit. Do you want to go to your next duty assignment with a reputation for being a vindictive witch? Think that over, cause duty stations give gaining station heads up.
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Let it go and divorce him. What are you going to do, destroy his Army career just because he was getting a little SNAP on the side from someone else? You're no different than the woman who just royally screwed up Johnathan Majors' movie career. A career worth many MILLIONS of dollars because he allegedly smacked her around and she probably had it coming anyway. Think before you file charges and make allegations!
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OK, I understand your position, I was there with my first wife, but she was the unfaithful party. Even though we were in different units, I saw no reason to ruin her career. We amicably divorced and soldiered on.
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1SG(P) Dean Mcbride (MPER) (SPHR)
My ex was also military. It was after I retired that she started playing patty cake with another LTC (my ex was a LTC - they were both on active duty). We got divorced, I took the kids and moved on with my life. She and the other LTC eventually got married. Looking back - it was probably one of the best things that ever happened to me!
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Just get a divorce and move on. You can be vindictive but what good is that going to do you? He obviously doesn't care about you so, move on.
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First my suggestion is simply get is to terminate your marriage, this sounds alot like an incident from the 1990s where the first female rated B-52 pilot started a relationship with the civilian male spouse of female A1C. After repeated requests from the A1C to end the relationship and warnings from the female First Shirt of the A1C (keep in mind this female officer was the AF Poster Child of bomber pilots)pushed the issue the Lt was discharged and I believe had to pay back the cost of her USAFA tuition and since she was high profile a less than Honorable discharge.I hope there are NO children involved
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I really hate situations like what you're describing. Unfortunately, for me, I can feel the pain and suffering now and in the future as it continues growing. Sounds like you hitched onto a problem that will not bend unless or until this Pfc leaves him... and/or until he finds another target first. For your kids sake and your sanity DUMP HIM and be sure to arrange to have the child support deducted from his pay by the US Army payroll section. Life is a fight.
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