Posted on Jan 24, 2023
How likely is my spouse to be charged with adultery and fraternization? What type of punishment should be expected?
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While I was deployed, I found out my husband was unfaithful and having extramarital affair with a Pfc from another unit. Him being a SGT. This was not the first time he was unfaithful to me prior adultery affairs. I gathered evidence, such as confessions from previous mistresses and pictures of him being unfaithful, such as kissing, hugging text
Messages showing him being affectionate, making comments like saying I love you to them and he’s so proud to have them as there are lover etc.
Now with this Pfc , I confronted her, and I let her know my husband was married to me, and that it would be smart. If she let us figure out these issues, and to leave him alone. this Pfc was around my child. She showered in my bathroom. She stayed in my house. She slept on my bed. She had sex on my bed. She sent me pictures of them with him on top of her, kissing her on the head and I was able to get pictures from her of them holding hands with his tattoos showing. He has abandoned me in order to be with this girl, and she claimed I was harassing her when I was asking her and begging her to leave my husband alone and let us figure things out on our own upon returning from my deployment. He and she continues the affair upon my return from deployment, and she lied to my commander about not seeing him yet she was caught with him the very same day she lied to my commander and claimed harassment.
The affair is continuing, but I don’t have any new evidence. My husband has been flagged for four months now and today he claims to have a second reading with his battalion commander.
During this whole investigation, I provided sworn statements with dates, timelines, pictures, telephonic confessions from the mistress ( she did not know she was being recorded) but it is legal in my state to record a conversation. How likely is my husband to be punished and what are the punishments looking like this has affected my mental health upon returning from deployment, knowing that I lost my entire family in my home due to the selfish actions of my husband and his private first class who knew what they were doing and had no remorse for the family I am now mourning. Not only is it affecting myself, but it is affecting our child as well..
Messages showing him being affectionate, making comments like saying I love you to them and he’s so proud to have them as there are lover etc.
Now with this Pfc , I confronted her, and I let her know my husband was married to me, and that it would be smart. If she let us figure out these issues, and to leave him alone. this Pfc was around my child. She showered in my bathroom. She stayed in my house. She slept on my bed. She had sex on my bed. She sent me pictures of them with him on top of her, kissing her on the head and I was able to get pictures from her of them holding hands with his tattoos showing. He has abandoned me in order to be with this girl, and she claimed I was harassing her when I was asking her and begging her to leave my husband alone and let us figure things out on our own upon returning from my deployment. He and she continues the affair upon my return from deployment, and she lied to my commander about not seeing him yet she was caught with him the very same day she lied to my commander and claimed harassment.
The affair is continuing, but I don’t have any new evidence. My husband has been flagged for four months now and today he claims to have a second reading with his battalion commander.
During this whole investigation, I provided sworn statements with dates, timelines, pictures, telephonic confessions from the mistress ( she did not know she was being recorded) but it is legal in my state to record a conversation. How likely is my husband to be punished and what are the punishments looking like this has affected my mental health upon returning from deployment, knowing that I lost my entire family in my home due to the selfish actions of my husband and his private first class who knew what they were doing and had no remorse for the family I am now mourning. Not only is it affecting myself, but it is affecting our child as well..
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Adultery
Fraternization
UCMJ
Posted 3 y ago
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what they say below... But i will say a prayer for you and YOUR health and recovery. That you can move forward and get this behind you where you may find respect you deserve and a Better life deserving of you moving forward
When i cam home from deployment wife handed me my car keys and that was the last time i ever saw her.. I think i got off lucky
When i cam home from deployment wife handed me my car keys and that was the last time i ever saw her.. I think i got off lucky
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SFC Jerry McLellen
And that's the way it should work. This path of vindictiveness is a dead end road.
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OOPS ~~ I'd Have FAR Too Much Fun Replying To This One...
But I Sure WOULD Like A Few Copies Of Those Photos...
I'd Sell Them On E.Bay As Wall Paper, And Become An Instant Millionaire..
And I'm Assuming...."THIS Was The First Time... He Was CAUGHT?
And Perhaps HE Should Be Checking HER Out.......
But I Sure WOULD Like A Few Copies Of Those Photos...
I'd Sell Them On E.Bay As Wall Paper, And Become An Instant Millionaire..
And I'm Assuming...."THIS Was The First Time... He Was CAUGHT?
And Perhaps HE Should Be Checking HER Out.......
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Get even with her... Let her have him!!!
If they cheat WITH you, they'll cheat ON you! She'll get replaced by the next PFC to shake her butt at him soon enough!
If they cheat WITH you, they'll cheat ON you! She'll get replaced by the next PFC to shake her butt at him soon enough!
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Seems like a problem that needs to resolved personally. Pfc can probably be charged but is worth it. If cannot resolve the problems then need to dissolve and try to start again. If problem is not resolved and you gain something from the charging then maybe. Divorce is messy and that appears to be what you are facing. I would be if they couldn't keep their pants on.
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As serious as adultery is, you need to move along. If he has cheated on you before, continues to cheat on you, what are you working on? He obviously has shown you that he does not want to be in a marriage. He will continue to treat you the way you allow him to treat you. Take the hint and go see legal on base and let them help you file your separation agreement and pro se divorce…then move along. The quicker you can get this chapter behind you, the quicker your kid can see two happy adults co-parenting, and you can go find something else to focus . If he wants to sleep around, tell him to go get the legal separation and than there is no more adultery.
If your goal is to get your pound of flesh or to uphold the highest traditions of the military service, get all your statements from previous women saying they did the Hokey Pokey together, get your videos of the act happening and give it to the command and they can do what it is they feel appropriate.
I would more focus on getting personal counseling so that you can progress in life and not repeat this same relationship.
If your goal is to get your pound of flesh or to uphold the highest traditions of the military service, get all your statements from previous women saying they did the Hokey Pokey together, get your videos of the act happening and give it to the command and they can do what it is they feel appropriate.
I would more focus on getting personal counseling so that you can progress in life and not repeat this same relationship.
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This is an 'old' post, yet here I go.
It takes two to tango as it were. I can assure you that if he wasn't interested, she would not be involved.
As a divorcee, an E-5 SGT, I was in no way interested in any 'relationships' as I had three kids to raise. After nearly 18 years, He decided the grass 'across the fence' provided greener pastures and 'wandered.'
I cannot count on both hands the number of times I was approached by MARRIED men, some more than once. Based on my singular experience and observation of others, that PFC has no clue. My counsel to you is not to confront her, but ask her to lunch and have a conversation. I learned from the 'ladyfriend' he was associated with that he had 'shared his misery' in our marriage and not one tale he told was any way near accurate. Ironic, because in our years together there had never been an issue we had been unable to work through together.
A word to the wise, as it were.
BTW, I chose to raise my kids rather than be involved with another male. My now former husband, and the males I was able to observe from a distance, proved the only person I could trust was myself.
Good Luck to you.
It takes two to tango as it were. I can assure you that if he wasn't interested, she would not be involved.
As a divorcee, an E-5 SGT, I was in no way interested in any 'relationships' as I had three kids to raise. After nearly 18 years, He decided the grass 'across the fence' provided greener pastures and 'wandered.'
I cannot count on both hands the number of times I was approached by MARRIED men, some more than once. Based on my singular experience and observation of others, that PFC has no clue. My counsel to you is not to confront her, but ask her to lunch and have a conversation. I learned from the 'ladyfriend' he was associated with that he had 'shared his misery' in our marriage and not one tale he told was any way near accurate. Ironic, because in our years together there had never been an issue we had been unable to work through together.
A word to the wise, as it were.
BTW, I chose to raise my kids rather than be involved with another male. My now former husband, and the males I was able to observe from a distance, proved the only person I could trust was myself.
Good Luck to you.
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Problem with this whole scenario is that it is always the Man that is accused of adultery but Women commit adultery and when these women do this when the Military member is in a combat zone this makes this even worse since the woman can easily hide the adultery. Biased from day one.
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A1C Medrick "Rick" DeVaney
EXACTLY ~~ Here's A Repeat Of My Previous Post:
"OMG.. I Don't Know What The Experience Is Of The Others In Here,
But While I Was Stationed In South Korea, We Had A Couple Of Guys Whom Seldom Left Base And Were So Faithful They Could Have Qualified As Saints... And BOTH Received "Dear John Letters" From Their Unfaithful Wife's, And One Was Pregnant ~~ Just NOT By Him. .LMAO. ...SO Quite Frankly, Care To Guess Which One Of These 2 I'd Be Questioning? ~~ And If I Were He, I'd Be Asking Questions Of Her Family & Friends, SOMEONE Knows What's Been Going On, Even If HE Didn't!"
"OMG.. I Don't Know What The Experience Is Of The Others In Here,
But While I Was Stationed In South Korea, We Had A Couple Of Guys Whom Seldom Left Base And Were So Faithful They Could Have Qualified As Saints... And BOTH Received "Dear John Letters" From Their Unfaithful Wife's, And One Was Pregnant ~~ Just NOT By Him. .LMAO. ...SO Quite Frankly, Care To Guess Which One Of These 2 I'd Be Questioning? ~~ And If I Were He, I'd Be Asking Questions Of Her Family & Friends, SOMEONE Knows What's Been Going On, Even If HE Didn't!"
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I have one Question, Why are you Fighting So hard to stay with a man that has Cheated on you Multiple Times?
I Know you do not want to hear this, & I hate To Tell You This, your Husband has no RESPECT OR LOVE FOR YOU, he has done everything but Leave you & DIVORCE YOU.
You need to understand you are His Safety Net & Doormat. You need to find a really Really Good DIVORCE LAWYER TO REPRESENT YOU.
My Advice is to Stop Talking to Him or the young women he Cheating on you with.
he & Her are no Longer Your Concern. & she will Find out what it like to be cheated on very soon,
once a Cheater always a cheater .
I would not waste the time of day or make any effort to speak or Argue with him or Her, it will only Hurt Your Divorce Case .
Just Hire a REALLY GOOD DIVORCE LAWERY. THE SOONER THE BETTER & stop airing your dirty Laundry On the internet, posting your Dirty Laundry for the World to see and read,
Will only hurt you and your Family during the Divorce, and after the Divorce. no man will want to date a women who tells the world there Private affaires.
once your Divorce is Finalized you will be much happier. ,
maybe Start Looking For A Man who Will Love & Respect & Be Kind to you & you Him.
I Know you do not want to hear this, & I hate To Tell You This, your Husband has no RESPECT OR LOVE FOR YOU, he has done everything but Leave you & DIVORCE YOU.
You need to understand you are His Safety Net & Doormat. You need to find a really Really Good DIVORCE LAWYER TO REPRESENT YOU.
My Advice is to Stop Talking to Him or the young women he Cheating on you with.
he & Her are no Longer Your Concern. & she will Find out what it like to be cheated on very soon,
once a Cheater always a cheater .
I would not waste the time of day or make any effort to speak or Argue with him or Her, it will only Hurt Your Divorce Case .
Just Hire a REALLY GOOD DIVORCE LAWERY. THE SOONER THE BETTER & stop airing your dirty Laundry On the internet, posting your Dirty Laundry for the World to see and read,
Will only hurt you and your Family during the Divorce, and after the Divorce. no man will want to date a women who tells the world there Private affaires.
once your Divorce is Finalized you will be much happier. ,
maybe Start Looking For A Man who Will Love & Respect & Be Kind to you & you Him.
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Don't blame the PFC, blame your husband! HE chose to begin the relationship, and as senior to her, HE bears the primary responsibility. Who do wives blame "the other woman"?
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