Posted on Jul 12, 2023
Is it standard or even typical as a form of disciplinary action for an NCO to call a soldier's parents to complain about the service member?
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Hello Rallypoint Members!
I have a question regarding disciplinary actions that I have received from my detachment SFC. So I got myself into some trouble with an MP (argued with an MP after having a few beers), not gonna go into great detail (I own the mistakes that I made) but I am confused about one thing that my detachment sergeant has done regarding my disciplinary actions. The day after my altercation with the MP’s, my detachment SFC called me into her office, she informed me about what reprimands I could be facing (which I expected) but she also made me write down my mother and father’s phone numbers and she actually called them to tell them how much of a dirt bag I had been (which I did not expect). I am a grown man and can face the legal and moral repercussions of my own actions but was taken aback to find out that my NCO had called my family to inform them of the mistakes that I had made. Is this standard procedure in the military or even a typical form of disciplinary action for an NCO to make?
Any and all input is appreciated!
Thanks!
I have a question regarding disciplinary actions that I have received from my detachment SFC. So I got myself into some trouble with an MP (argued with an MP after having a few beers), not gonna go into great detail (I own the mistakes that I made) but I am confused about one thing that my detachment sergeant has done regarding my disciplinary actions. The day after my altercation with the MP’s, my detachment SFC called me into her office, she informed me about what reprimands I could be facing (which I expected) but she also made me write down my mother and father’s phone numbers and she actually called them to tell them how much of a dirt bag I had been (which I did not expect). I am a grown man and can face the legal and moral repercussions of my own actions but was taken aback to find out that my NCO had called my family to inform them of the mistakes that I had made. Is this standard procedure in the military or even a typical form of disciplinary action for an NCO to make?
Any and all input is appreciated!
Thanks!
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Maybe it's the fact that I'm blunt and kept myself out of trouble during my 11-year tenure in the military (Army and Air Force), but you're supposed to be responsible for your own actions. FFS, I learned to be responsible while a junior and through senior year in HS (graduated in 2002). Your detachment NCO should've just smoked your ass for a while and make ya sweat instead of calling your parents. Wtf are they gonna do about the incedent?
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Not standard or typical. You did give that information though.
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This is totally unacceptable what happens in the military should stay there, you aren't in HS anymore
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What said it all. "the nco is a female". Even at 17, if you join the military, you're considered a man. you own up to what ever happen & take the punishment. If he wasn't going to be put in jail, then he could handle it all himself.
Seems to me the NCO is trying to be abusive or to prove something to her self.
Seems to me the NCO is trying to be abusive or to prove something to her self.
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I have to stand with LTC Quinter. I cannot imagine any disciplinary situation involving an adult (which any person who can enter into an enlistment contract is, by definition) where the involvement of the soldier's parents is warranted. I would also have some questions for the NCO involved about why contacting the soldier's parents would be an appropriate action.
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It seems like a lazy form of leadership. I had an officer ask me "Do I need to call your daddy?" Because something insignificant that didn't even warrant NJP. That may work to scare a naive 18 year old kid but it's not good leadership.
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To my knowledge, when you sign those enlistment papers you are considered an adult! Why this SFC would call your parents, I have no clue, and in my opinion she crossed the line!!! I'm quite shocked at this and if it had happened to me. I would be seriously pissed!
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