Do you believe that your PTS (PTSD) symptoms can be found in your family members? It is called secondary PTS.
Symptom example: Startle response.
You are doing everything in your power to keep noise to a minimum so you don't find yourself clinging to the ceiling. Suddenly, the kids accidentally drop something and BOOM! That demon rises up and takes control. Even though you calm down and apologize, you plant that seed in those around you. Before long, even if you manage not to react, the kids may. They flinch and panic because they expect your reaction. We have now conditioned others to feel what we feel.
So many arguments happen in the family because of the lack of understanding that our symptoms can effect our loved ones. Don't waste your time pointing fingers. YOU might be Rambo and think you can deal with it on your own. Your family may not have that same iron constitution. If you don't want to get help for yourself, get help for their sake. One Team One Fight applies to family even more than the branch you faithfully serve.
This is an example from my life before I got help from the VA. Please share your opinions for the benefit of the community. God bless. Uncle Mark
war but I have more toxins in me then some who served two wars. Check out Fort McClellan toxic exposure to the fullest and you will be surprised it may be effecting any one of you if you were ever there.
I have always thought it was more in this lines than it was in general Depression. I had father who was verbally abusive, and both of my parents believe in hitting for distant discipline, or at least it felt like it while they were practicing it. It drives me crazy when my wife can sit there tell me I am exactly like my father, when she knows how much I never wanted to be like him.
No I am not trying to be Rambo, I just had bad taste left in my mouth after week or two in the Mental Ward of Womack Hospital at Fort Bragg, thanks to my Company Commander. When I got diagnosed with Depression and Anxiety. Even with this he refused to believed these were legit issues, or understand that he set up the conditions within the Company that led up to these symptoms showing, due to him believing that I had been sandbagging. Just tired of fighting over stuff, and want to find why I have so few friends....
Like I said grew up with father who yell at me and my brothers growing up for every little things. I can't work on mechanical due, to the fact, when ever I did try to help him, he would never explain what to do and why, just expected me to already know how and why. Being in the Navy, we all know the language he used. To top it off he was cross-dresser.
So going to the Army was a way to get away from that situation, and find out what I may want to do with my life. I knew I wanted to go to college eventually, and career path after the Army. What I had read in history, I figure for the first enlistment, I may as well go Infantry and Airborne, just get them out of the way. So when the Drill Sergeant came around to pick on me, it was no big deal. When other people in the company and my own platoon I just shrug it off. Heard much worse growing up. Made it through there and through Airborne Training, and some of the guys I went through both coming up to me like they were awestruck that I made it through both with all the shit I took. Sadly, one of those guys, blew his brains out year later in 2/504th P.I.R, and he was one of those who in basic who used give everyone who seemed 'weaker' shit. Through the time in Basic, I heard lot strange things, some I wish I had never heard, others were quite amusing. Same while I was in Alpha Co, 1/325th A.I.R. seen lot things in 3rd Platoon. Somedays I thought we were going to have a KKK meeting break out on 2nd floor of the barracks with the heated discussion by some of the southern boys, who were talking about the Platoon Sgt. Sad thing of was, that 2nd platoon was on the same floor at the far end, and we were next to stairwell that we were suppose use. D Co from the 3rd floor was suppose to use the other stairwell. So to say the least, it did cause some issue for quite a few months until a couple E-4s separated from the Army.
After my separation from the Military my life has been one constant struggle to get it back on track. Looking back everything since I have found out that I have Asperger's, ADHD, and Anxiety that has explained a lot, but still leave some large holes, that still can't be explained. Anxiety and ADHD explain why taking test is so difficult, or going to Interviews, or doing good enough to get a called back for next part. Asperger explains why I have always liked to have a day planned out, even though I hate the hurry up and wait from the Army standpoint. When I ask simple question that can be answer by yes or no, I do not expect to have to qualify with anything else. Like yesterday I got up, put my phone down, to do something. Snowplow people came around, got around, put my phone in my pocket before heading out the door. Hour or so later, I was looking for my phone, last place I remember was where I put my phone down at, I ask my wife, if my phone was there? She was like no, then she goes why? I am like, just looking for my phone, and that last place I remember placing it. Then she goes off, like I wouldn't move your phone, so I could put my phone down. I am like ADHD, does that ring a bell....sigh...
Well I have bored everyone enough today...to long winded....
Thirty-nine percent of those who live with a veteran who is struggling with post-traumatic
stress disorder will develop Secondary PTSD (also known as STS or Secondary
Traumatic Stress). Be on the look out for symptoms of STS in your child and if you notice
any of these behaviors, seek help as soon as possible. Unfortunately, if left untreated,
Secondary PTSD can negatively impact the rest of your child’s life!
Signs & Symptoms of Secondary PTSD to Watch for in Children:
Extreme mood changes, irritability;
Depression and anxiety;
Losing creativity and interest in activities they would typically enjoy;
Loneliness, withdrawal and pulling away;
Acting out more than a child should at their age;
Fighting and trying to harm siblings;
Self-destruction or destruction in property;
Stating or acting as they are to blame for a parent’s PTSD outburst;
Stating or feeling as though a parent no longer cares for or loves them;
Becoming numb towards family, friends, and things they use to take pleasure in;
Copying a parent’s attitude and actions in an attempt to reconnect with their parent;
Attempting to take on more than they should at their age;
Trying to fill the void in the family or a take a parent’s place;
A drop in grades, or failing in school when they use to have strong grades;
Hard time making new friends and keeping old friends;
Suddenly getting into an unusual amount of trouble and taking place in violent acts.
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Secondary PTSD (STS) in Children - Signs, Symptoms, and Red Flags
39% of all children who live with a veteran who has PTSD will develop secondary PTSD or secondary traumatic stress (STS). If left untreated, STS can have lifelong consequences. Find out what signs and symptoms of secondary PTSD to watch for in your child.
(I'm amused because I always arrive at the AO early enough to stake out a good position.)
To get to the topic of secondary PTS: that sort of behavior can actually be stressful to friends and relatives in its more extreme forms. Getting really edgy when there are fireworks going off a couple miles away also rubs off.
https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/for-my-bible-scholars-i-would-like-to-engage-you-with-a-discussion-on-who-had-ptsd-in-the-bible
For my Bible scholars, I would like to engage you with a discussion on who had PTSD in the Bible....
Saul and David as traumatized warrior kings. Saul committed atrocities, flew into violent rages, turned against David and other friends, murdered priests and holy women. We are told, “The spirit of God left him, and an evil spirit sent by the Lord tormented him.” (Samuel 16:14). Traditional cultures have always known of this wound. They understood that the wound was also spiritual, moral and holistic in its essence. For example, the Sioux...