Has anyone ever had a family member throw your uniforms and military belongings in the trash? I need to know how I should approach this.

it may be small number in comparison to others but I had like just under a hundred coins, during the 5 years on AD, some for achievement, above & beyond while doing my job which I thought I was just doing what I'm supposed to anyways, but yes, it was sad...

I'm sorry no matter what has happened between me and ex I would never throw his stuff out nor he mine. I may not care for him anymore but I still respect his time in the service.

Too bad my brother's ex is such a waste of human life....she threw a lot of his stuff away (even though there was a court order that nothing was to leave the home). Many of his things were irreplaceable- and even though he could get replacements for some, it's just not the same.

NO ALL WAS TAUGHT TO RESPECT THE UNIFORM AND ALL OF THE ARMY ITEMS

Anytime SSG Angela Valtierra I'd also stay tuned to 1SG (Join to see) here as he'll have some good thoughts to add. If you need a smile or 2 please check out his bulldog and some of the other pets on the link below. Always remember to reach out, that's what RP is here for.

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SSG Angela Valtierra I want you to know that I am not taking sides nor am I a parent. What I can offer you is this.

Especially in the time of war, many parents are not 100% on board with their children joining the military. Many will not tell you that and will try to hide their true emotions. In your case you kind of knew they were not on board completely.

It may be the case that your father was upset with the whole military situation as it pertained to his daughter. 1) you joined during the time of war against his will 2) you developed injuries in the Army which he probably sees as the Army hurting his daughter 3) you were discharged from the Army (medically I presume) 4) you brought all your belongings home and then left again (regardless of the reason). With him looking at the stuff laying around it could be that he built up more and more hate towards the situation and his way of alleviating the pain was to get rid of as much of the memories as possible.

That is just one way to look at the situation from an unbiased opinion. In the end I hope that you can find peace with your parents and forgive them. As I am sure you are aware, life is short. The uniforms and other military things that you held near and dear to your heart (as we all do) are not nearly as important as a healthy relationship with your parents in my opinion. We are all here for you, don't make split second decisions that can have lifelong consequences.

SFC (P) Richard Gilley, In the end I know I will forgive him. I wish he could apologize Or somewhat acknowledge what he did was wrong but I have learned through therapy that my parents are never going to give me what I ultimately need. With that said I find and what I ultimately need from my friends and that is why they are upset that I don't live by them and I choose to live down here I have tried to talk to them about military the military and PTSD and everything like that but they don't even want to hear it. I left my BDUs there because I could not take them with me to Korea since they were phased out. thank you for the advice I know I will forgive him but it just like really upsets me because his dad was in World War II and he has all of his dad stuff.

I understand SSG Angela Valtierra and time will heal everything hopefully. As for his dads stuff... You know well the military life and how much it takes us away from our families. He probably holds his dad's stuff because his dad is a hero to him, but at the same time, his dad was probably not always around because of the military. So as a child he endured the hardships of a military child, then again as a father. Again I wish you all the best, and we as a military/veteran community are here for you, and all others that just need to talk.