Posted on Aug 28, 2014
Is it offensive to call service members brother and sister?
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Is it appropriate to refer to service members as "my brother" or "my sister"?
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Using the term "brother" or "sister" as Vet has NOTHING to do with religion.
I honestly didn't use the term much while I was in. Now that I'm just a medically retired, broke-d**k vet, I do use it a lot more. On the outside, rank doesn't really matter as much (still cal CSMs by their rank & >LTCs, sir though). You connect with those who went through the same sh*t as you. Especially on the outside, Vets stick together & support each other; regardless of rank or branch. We use the terms "brother" or "sister" for those who get you, can relate to you & who would have your back; like family.
"We few. We happy few. We band of brothers. For he who sheds his blood with me this day, shall be my brother!"
P.S. Civilians suck! ....As does being one.
I honestly didn't use the term much while I was in. Now that I'm just a medically retired, broke-d**k vet, I do use it a lot more. On the outside, rank doesn't really matter as much (still cal CSMs by their rank & >LTCs, sir though). You connect with those who went through the same sh*t as you. Especially on the outside, Vets stick together & support each other; regardless of rank or branch. We use the terms "brother" or "sister" for those who get you, can relate to you & who would have your back; like family.
"We few. We happy few. We band of brothers. For he who sheds his blood with me this day, shall be my brother!"
P.S. Civilians suck! ....As does being one.
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Only if you are married to them...I was going to make a comment about SSG V. Michelle Woods but I remembered how sensitive she was.
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1SG (Join to see)
Well that would not make it offensive MSG, just a little weird, OK maybe a lot weird!!
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HBO Band of Brothers: German General's speech
This is the speech that is given by a German General to his men after surrendering to the Americans. This is directly cut from the episode, nothing added not...
This is what I was referring to. I consider you all family.
http://youtu.be/VcMk85ZsBh0
http://youtu.be/VcMk85ZsBh0
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Cpl Dennis F.
SFC Mark Merino
It is Presidio Press I think. Softcover. Try Amazon.
Full Metal Jacket was a composite of Herr's "Dispatches" and Gustav Hasford's "The thirteenth Valley". Dispatches is the best Vietnam book I have read. He lived and breathed with the combat troops. I opened my book with one of his quotes "Vietnam is what we had instead of happy childhoods"
It is Presidio Press I think. Softcover. Try Amazon.
Full Metal Jacket was a composite of Herr's "Dispatches" and Gustav Hasford's "The thirteenth Valley". Dispatches is the best Vietnam book I have read. He lived and breathed with the combat troops. I opened my book with one of his quotes "Vietnam is what we had instead of happy childhoods"
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MSG Brad Sand
SFC Mark Merino
While the German General's speech was good, Capt Sobel being put in his place was one of my favorite parts of the entire series.
While the German General's speech was good, Capt Sobel being put in his place was one of my favorite parts of the entire series.
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SPC Daniel Bowen
I wouldn't ever think to call that offensive. It's a damn honor to have such a title among-st your fellow soldier. And even that title isn't given, it's earned.Â
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Sgt Peter Stone
My only caveat to it, is that it needs to come from another veteran. Just because your sister's ex-boyfriend's cousin in law did a weekend trip with the cub scouts one summer back in 92 doesn't make you my brother/sister.
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Well, if it is, I guess I'm guilty. I always refer to other service members as my bothers and sisters in uniform.
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The bond I have with those I deployed with is as close as my own immediate family. We trained together, lived together, ate together. Experienced events that changed our lives. Shared stories of our families and growing up. We learned to instinctively have each others back when the shit hit the fan and all hell was breaking loose. We grieve and suffered pain together as well as the joys and laughter.
We have our professional military careers. This is what the public sees and we share with them. Our military family - our bond that binds us is what we share between us. It is a bond we share with those who have served before us, serve with us and we will share with those who follow after us.
This bond is often unspoken. We look out for one another. Each of us have different experiences but we are not so different. We are brothers and sisters in the greatest profession of arms.
We have our professional military careers. This is what the public sees and we share with them. Our military family - our bond that binds us is what we share between us. It is a bond we share with those who have served before us, serve with us and we will share with those who follow after us.
This bond is often unspoken. We look out for one another. Each of us have different experiences but we are not so different. We are brothers and sisters in the greatest profession of arms.
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SSgt James Connolly
You have a great outlook one that I wish every unit should work at,earlier service periods suffered from this lack of, I now wcome every one as brother or sister bot not Bro
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SSG (Join to see)
Thanks. I was called "old school" a few months ago because I was pushing that we conduct a formal Dining In versus a Dining Out. I really do believe in the ties that bind us all together - the traditions and standards we hold ourselves to that is not seen in the civilian world outside of the Fire, EMS, and Law Enforcement services.
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Nope, not at all and here is why. If I served or you served we are in fact brothers and sisters in Arms. We defended this country and we will always family to each other. I always knew I had their backs and they mine, and even though I have been out over 30 years, I would still feel that way today.
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PFC Kevin Adrian
Thank you SFC Merino for your comment. I always appreciate feedback form fellow soldiers, from a private all the way through the top Brass. I feel we learn from one another.
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For my Marine friends at Rally Point
Attention: SFC Mark Merino
Perspective, use them or lose them.
This is what I personally say, my brothers and sister and my mother at what I call "1st Blood".
However my Armed Forces SM and Veterans are also brothers and sisters, in the sense that, if I put a topic here about what we know, we can all understand what I'm saying. In combat we would fight as a team together as one. Now how does that make us all family, well my biological family doesn't understand this, while my military family does.
You don't have to be in the Marines to really enjoy how they sing there cadence.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h47n691fy3o
Perspective, use them or lose them.
This is what I personally say, my brothers and sister and my mother at what I call "1st Blood".
However my Armed Forces SM and Veterans are also brothers and sisters, in the sense that, if I put a topic here about what we know, we can all understand what I'm saying. In combat we would fight as a team together as one. Now how does that make us all family, well my biological family doesn't understand this, while my military family does.
You don't have to be in the Marines to really enjoy how they sing there cadence.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h47n691fy3o
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SFC Mark Merino
Best response ever SSG Laureano Pabon and a Semper Fi shot out for all our Marine family.
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Never offensive!! I feel you are all, no matter the branch, my brothers and sisters
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Honestly, I don't use it often, and not for anyone who wasn't in my company. My line of reasoning is that calling someone your brother is kind of a big deal, at least to me it is. If you're a fellow service member, we'll probably get along great and be good friends. But the only Marines I'll call my brothers were over in the sandbox with me, by my side a-hookin and a-jabbin with the Taliban. Feel free to disagree, but "brother" does not lightly leave my lips.
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SFC Mark Merino
Cpl Peter Martuneac Totally justifiable point. I respect your position 100%. Great example.
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Of course not. We are all brothers and sisters-in-arms. We have seen both the best and worse sides of the human race. We have had to be there for each other during the good and the bad. We have celebrated together and we have mourned together. And regardless how some might act, they are still in the family. Every family has a bad egg or two; the military family is no different. And just like with your family, you don't have to talk to them but they are still part of the family regardless.
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