Military divorces are slightly higher than the average population. Why do you think this is so?

The prevalent philosophy of "What happens on deployment stay on deployment!" speaks volumes as to why divorce rates are high in the military.

I think it's a lot of these young Marines and young soldiers marry the first female they can. They marry for their perception of love. Not actual love. You aren't shown love while being lower enlisted, and you're normally pretty far from your family, so you look for love wherever you can. You think you've found it, you get married, then you and your spouse both quickly realize that you don't actually love each other.

My nephew is currently going through a divorce and he's USMC. Married very young (he was 20 she was 18 or 19). She turned out to be a very crazy female. The dependapotmous type; accusing him of infidelity, enough to where she called his command twice accusing him. She also called the command upset at the fact he had to remain on base rather than come home for the holidays. Seriously?! Now that my nephew has proclaimed, signed and presented her with divorce papers, she's sitting on them and has refused to talk to the in-laws.

My buddy who was USAF got married at a young age and his wife lied, cheated and stole (went to jail for it too) and now that he's out of the AF (because she wanted him out) he's miserable after 10 years of being married to her. Friends have tried to assist but he is very stubborn. He wants a divorce but he's just lazy.

Marriage is hard under any circumstances...and that's when it doesn't have to compete with a career that demands total focus, dedication and sacrifice...at twenty.

From my personal experience it is many times caused by separation of families for whatever reason such as Combat Deployments, deployment to areas where spouses or children are not allowed or supported, overseas deployments to overseas areas where one spouse feels out of their area of comfort. After six or more months of separation unfortunately one or both spouses seek solace in the arms of another person.

I can definately tell you from experience on this one, kids are young, they think, ah, it's the military, 'we'll be ok..' what's a couple of years?...he/she's doing it for country, pride, etc, I can be a good spouse and support him/her, I'm excited about his/her joining, I can meet new friends, I LOVE to travel... NOT knowing that said soldier deploys constantly, no, you cannot join them on a hardship tour, no,you cannot join them in afghanistan nor iraq...they cannot tell you where they're going/nor when they'll come back...(this is dependent of course on their MOS obvously); Unless you were RAISED in a military family, you really don't know about what's going on with him/herr...and then, still, maybe not. Now, there are SOME marriages that DO work out with spouse being military, BUT, those are RARE.

I would have to say, deployments, training and most are married at a very young age.

I got married at 20 years old I joined the military after a few years and have deployed twice about to go again. It is easy to say that people where to young or that deployments are hard on a marriage. But I personally belive it is because soliders like to use those things as an excuse. They just don't get the thrill they used to from this woman and they dont care enought to fight for the relationship. Marriage is tough there is no dought about it and not all couples make it. But remember it is never just one thing that kills a marriage, they may contribute but its not all the militaries fault.

Distance does not make the heart grow fonder (another urban legend debunked). Also, there's the issue of money. Financial difficulties strain any marriage, military or civilian. They seem more prevalent in military occupations.

Everything affects a Marriage, It's what you do with it that defines your moral character and ultimately your priorities in such matters....I isn't easy, Period. that's why through good times and bad is in most vows I would imagine.