Retired E8-E9, should your status be used as a bully platform?

Does this truly require a response?

Luckily, I know my children were raised right, and would never even think of trying to get some kind of favorable treatment like this.
They are proud of me, and I of them. What makes me proud is what they earn, not what they were given.

I feel like you know the answers to all of these questions already.

One thing is add is that most infantry folks that I worked with WANTED to deploy and would be pretty upset of someone tried to screw that up for them.

Frankly, if I were put in a position in which a retired SM attempted to influence anything having to do with their child's career, I would tell them outright to fuck off.

Let the child make their own way !

The answers are all obvious.... NO. Sounds like someone peed in Tops Wheaties.

My oldest son and I deployed to Iraq on the same rotation in 2003, he was with the Field Artillery out of Sill and I had the 62nd Engineers out of Hood. I knew and had served with his NCO Support channel from 1SG to BDE CSM and he would tell me that they used to tell him that if he didn't keep his nose clean they'd call me. Kind of the reverse of what you describe.
Later in 05-07 I was in Iraq again and he went to Afghanistan, I'd get e-mails from friends in the Infantry and Artillery that they had run into him and a SITREP. Never felt compelled to stick my nose in anyone's business and he never complained about his units.

NO- He's a grown man now, let him make his own way in his own world!

In the first place that would be completely improper in My opinion and any show of special treatment or favors based on Who You know never has and never will sit well with Me. I wouldn't lower Myself to using undue influence on anybody's assignment for special treatment or lack the ethics to tell Me that is wrong. I would never have wanted anyone I knew trying to influence anything like that for Me and no one ever has and I wouldn't do it either. Be it employment or Military service Your offspring need to be able to stand on their own two feet and in no way are You doing them a favor in the long run. I also feel that undue influence attempt would do more harm than good. I'm not interest in who You know or what influence You think You have and as far as I'm concerned that is a strike against You to think You can force Your way into special treatment that way. I would expect that child to show proper respect for those assigned over Him and obey their orders without any debate, don't expect any special treatment or consideration and work as part of the team He is a member of. It is His or Her own performance I'll use as a measure as to their worth as a complete team player on their own individual effort and result of their own work not any outside attempts at pressure. If I don't feel someone deserves a recommendation they won't get it, only that individual can earn that endorsement !

Im hoping all of those are rhetorical questions as the answers are obvious and not really up for discussion.

Then why would you let your kid enlist in the first place?

Retired is not a rank and being a previous Sr NCO this person should understand this. I would tell him to write his Congressman and don't discuss this with me again. This person must not understand how much harder life will be for the child as well. Once everyone finds out about this crap everyone looks at him/her differently.

That’s a hard no 1SG. I just got done chaptering an individual last week who’s father is a CSM.

Just because you share the same name as someone who’s done great things doesn’t mean you can get a pass for being a megaturd.

I have never had any retired senior enlisted interfere in any way. I have had one retired commissioned officer from a different service try. Try being the operative word.

Short story: In Boot Camp, one of the recruit's dad was a Marine Colonel (still serving). To his credit, the recruit never thought about invoking Dad's name. But we knew about him.

Night before graduation, we were told no showers. The recruit was caught taking one early that morning and was fired from being a Squad Leader.

Graduation is complete and we meet the Colonel. He's in civilian clothes (he wanted it to be his son's day) and asks about his son being in the last rank, instead of up front. When he found out, he went right to the Drill Instructors...and thanked them...for doing the right thing (minus the NJP). Then he told his son how lucky he was not to be facing "office hours"

No way in H.E. double hockey stick

ANY retired service member attempting to impose their prior service and/or rank to influence lawful decisions for a family member currently serving needs to first, get their head out of their ass and second, realize the time to influence family members is before they make the commitment. My grandson, a senior in High School is contemplating military service. My job is to ensure he gets the facts, help him achieve the highest possible scores on test and ensure his decision is made with eyes wide open. At this point helping him obtain information and asking questions he may not ask is my duty as a grandfather. If he makes the decision to enlist my advice will be to prepare to “suck it up”. This reminds of parents who say they support military service but not for their children.

It is the army, where all animals are created equal, some are just more equal than others.

No. The child joined of their free will, they don’t get special privileges.

The commander is responsible for ensuring no one is put in this situation.

Sht! I do not know how this person (E8,E9) raised their kid, but if I called my father and cried about having to deploy in my first unit, he would not of called, he would of drove there, kicked my ass, and through me on the first plane leaving himself. Maybe daddy (E8,E9) should step back and not try to influence anything, in most cases that just causes resentment among peers and eventually he gets put into his place like "I do not give a rats ars who your daddy is, go clean the latrine, sweep, mob, and take the trash out Mr. Daddies boy since doing your job is to scary for you". And his career has already started off as a little cry baby anyway so good luck the rest of the way.

I’d want my child to thrive and be put to the test with his fellow warriors...my son is 5 months old, and I often wonder how his mother especially would handle it. Obviously I’d never want the unthinkable to happen....but is it wrong that id WANT him in the suck?

Sounds like NEPOTISM.

I'm familiar to this situation as I was a military brat that joined the Army. My father was an Infantry Officer, by way of OCS, and was a former NCO, E-6. An Airborne Ranger and former Mechanized Infantry Company Commander, I truly wished he'd show me favor by alerting his Infantry and Ranger network I was in the service. Joining the strange world of the Army was weird because I was always around it but never invested in it. However, I am a retired Army Ranger, E-7, and never received any such privileges. Some of my friends received great officer appointments and assignments based on legacy, I always thought it unfair. I don't think a parents service should be officially recognized as an advantage to a child of a service member. What's the point of having members in the military if they can be exempt from combat, deployments, other situations because of family legacy. That would only destroy the legacy. I am biased because I never received any special treatment as I sent to combat several times, was deployed in miserable places, and fought fairly for every promotion.