There is respect and then there is respect

Great topic! The first respect (that towards a specific rank) is just that, respect. The second type of respect (based on character and actions) also encompasses trust and loyalty.

To be able to gain the trust, loyalty and respect of another human being based solely off your leadership is priceless. The bonds that you will build and form with those Soldiers is also one that neither of you will likely forget.

Good question. I love the scene in Band of Brothers when MAJ Winters gets to run into his arch-nemesis and previous CPT Commander who tries walking by with contempt and no salute. It was proof that what comes around goes around. We have all been absolutely amazed by the mysterious inner workings of those above us that shouldn't be trusted with handing out the mail, let alone leading troops. There always seems to be that special "go to" person who is wise beyond their years, yet gets shoulder pains from being at parade rest to said wonder doofus. We just try to not bite our tongues off and hope to PCS without letting the truth come out.

Very true ma'am, the latter being the toughest to achieve. Rank is apparent and respecting what someone wears on their uniform, or the position they hold in the organization goes with the territory. But as you point out, its what we say and do that earns us respect as a person, regardless of the rank. Earning respect among peers, seniors and subordinates as a person is IMHO much more important than the rank respect because it also earns you the trust, confidence and camaraderie that bonds you to the members your organization and makes the organization as a whole that much stronger.
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