Why do spouses insist on wearing uniform items that they didn't earn? Better yet, why are the military members letting them?

Sgt Sasha Cruz I have to both agree and disagree with you here. I agree with the half naked in military blouse or draped flag being inappropriate, just the same as I would for a servicememeber doing the same thing (we shouldn't limit that to just spouses).

I would have to disagree about spouses not serving though. I would say they do serve, maybe not in the same capacity as the service member, but they are valued members of the team that make what we do as servicemembers possible (as I am sure you know). Now, does that entitle them to same "rights / benefits" we receive, probably not, but say to write them off as not serving, I thinkg that is a bit much.

Just my thoughts!

As both a vet and an ex military wife I have seen it as well. My friend lived in housing and after dealing with her friends there I swore I would never live in a military housing unit. I ended up in one at one point and didn't socialize. I was still welcome at my friends house after I tore some of her friends a new one but chose not to when she was having any kind of party. When her friends first learned I was another military spouse they tried to push me into their pecking order of my husband is a ..... I looked at the chiefs wife and told her she ranked lower than me as I was an actual veteran. They had figured their pecking order based on their spouses. I never saw any of them wearing uniform parts but saw many supportive tees and sweats.

It drives me nuts, especially when they try to cover up by saying they serve too. I approached a...volumptuous woman in Walmart the other day and politely asked that she not wear the PT shirt unless she was prior military. She claimed she was. I apologized for the mistake and asked her what her MOS was. Her reply was that she worked in a top secret base at the north pole....

It makes the women feel close to there spouse like Waring there t-shirt to sleep in

I think your getting your panties in a wad over nothing,...I see nothing wrong with a Husband or wife being proud of their spouses service,....as long as they arent Disrespectful of that service it's their own business what pictures they take or choose to display.

I don't really tell people I'm a navy wife but if people ever find out they always tell me "thank you and your husband for you service" and it really bothers me... Because I'm not the one serving. My husband is. He's the one who earned the uniform and fights our country and not me.

While I agree with you about wearing un-earned uniform items I will have to part with you about spouses being "Self-entitled lazy....." I completely respect the way many of the spouses:
1. Became un-credited project managers, ensuring mail was sent to our troops, the home was upgraded or even moved to meet the needs of a greedy military that decided to send their significant other on PCS in conjunction with a school, ...
2. Learned the art of social support, helping those less experienced military spouses deal with a job where half of their support structure went away right after raising the household responsibility level by a child
3. Busted their knuckles assembling furniture, fixing pipes, and figuring out all those handy man items they used to put on a "honey-do list"
4. Became an un-licensed child therapist while dealing with their own feelings that result from long separations

I don't think they deserve our uniform items, but I don't know if I would want to lace up their boots for ruck march.

The sacrifice they go through on deployment is unlike anything other families have to go through in this country, it is indeed special and remarkable. Doing everything with a family of 6 while I am deployed for 10 months from school, extracurriculars, etc all by herself is nothing short of amazing. It is absolutely an act of selfless service what she does. You can say things without trying to take away the enormity of what they do for us.

There is a certain amount of kinship with wearing your significant others' clothes or making a sense of connection. I think it is ok provided it is not done in an insulting way. I thoroughly understand the sense of pride with the proper wearing of an earned uniform, but a civilian does not have to abide by the same rules we do. Self expression, pride, and freedom are what we all have fought for. I cannot concur with any type of rule that causes anything like censorship for our civilian families. Let the communists and fascists pull that. Finally, NO SPOUSE should be saying that their service is the same as being in a forward area, but I know that many veterans would agree with the sentiment.

I feel that wearing your spouses rank is disrespectful to those that actually serve. Yes, they deserve acknowledgement when FAITHFULLY supporting their SM. However I have seen spouses that think because they are married to a 2LT they should be saluted. And to that I say GFY!