Posted on Jan 2, 2018
Army general’s promotion pulled after calling congressional staffer 'sweetheart'
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Have we gone to far on being too far? I absolutely do support this statement, as it is not the way I was talk, nor would I ever. Some of the other comments... I am not so sure. I am torn on this one... Having myself, been personally investigated by our DAIG (not for things like this - reprisal). They are not exactly a fair and balanced organization with regards to to dealing with senior leaders.
Army general’s promotion pulled after calling congressional staffer 'sweetheart'
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Inspector General
Sexual Harassment
Respect
Posted 7 y ago
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In this case, I don't know the general's intent. Could he have said "sweetheart" pejoratively? Yes. Should the word itself be stricken from our language, or should only women be allowed to say it? Can I say, "thank you, you are such a sweetheart" to my nurse when she helps me get up? The 5th and 6th amendments protect us in criminal cases. But administrative actions today can threaten one's livelihood (career, property) and reputation (permanently and globally, thanks to the internet), without due process or right to know the witnesses and charges. The crime is not mentioned, because in many cases there has been no crime. Yet the punishment is real and forever.
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LTC (Join to see)
I've been called "honey" by everyone from my dental hygienist to the monitor of the self-checkout lanes at Walmart. Should I be offended and complain? As I've repeatedly noted elsewhere, those who seek shall find. That is particularly true of those seeking an excuse to be butt-hurt. Methinks the Army has just lost a warrior general who was years in the making ... for a trivial reason.
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Susan Foster
When I was in the Pentagon (and supervised mostly men--civilian and military) I had a bad habit of calling people "hon" and "dear." It's a southern thing, and I didn't think anything about it. But I guess I would have to be really careful now. I have no idea what his intent was, but I can see where he could have done this perfectly innocently, based on my own situation.
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I agree with you on being torn on the issue. The way we are raised factors in heavily to how we speak to other people in casual conversation. Sometimes we don't even think of the things that come out of our mouth until after the fact.
If the intent was sexual harassment, then of course the individual should be punished.
But I can't count the amount of times in my life where a member of the opposite sex has referred to me in casual conversation as "Sweetie" or "Hunny" even if there was no past or present relationship. Typically the words were dropped when the individual in question forgot my name and used a complimentary substitute.
"Hey Sweetie, how are you doing"
People tend to respond better if you compliment them before you ask them to do something.
If the intent was sexual harassment, then of course the individual should be punished.
But I can't count the amount of times in my life where a member of the opposite sex has referred to me in casual conversation as "Sweetie" or "Hunny" even if there was no past or present relationship. Typically the words were dropped when the individual in question forgot my name and used a complimentary substitute.
"Hey Sweetie, how are you doing"
People tend to respond better if you compliment them before you ask them to do something.
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