Posted on Feb 10, 2016
Do you think it is more important to have an accurate idea of WHO you really are, in order to get where you REALLY want ?
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Your first question is
What do I really really want?
The second is, why do I want it?
You see Mark Twain said "The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you figure out why."
Asking the why question over and over again. Might start with, Why do I want to retire in this area or that? Why is that area so important? Why do I want that?
Why do I want this job?
Why would it satisfy me?
Why is it so important to me?
Those give you an idea I don't know what you are looking for you will have come up with your own questions. If you want help I am offering a free class called "Put your Dreams to the Test." This is an 8 week course and we will get in touch by conference call send an e-mail to [login to see] . Class will be on Tuesday nights from 6:30 to 7:30 pm Eastern time introduction is February 16 first class February 23rd. No charge at this time, actually most of the services I provide to veterans is at no charge. It is my way to say thank you to all my veteran family for serving. I would like to extend a personal thank you to you for serving and sacrificing your time to protect this great nation.
What do I really really want?
The second is, why do I want it?
You see Mark Twain said "The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you figure out why."
Asking the why question over and over again. Might start with, Why do I want to retire in this area or that? Why is that area so important? Why do I want that?
Why do I want this job?
Why would it satisfy me?
Why is it so important to me?
Those give you an idea I don't know what you are looking for you will have come up with your own questions. If you want help I am offering a free class called "Put your Dreams to the Test." This is an 8 week course and we will get in touch by conference call send an e-mail to [login to see] . Class will be on Tuesday nights from 6:30 to 7:30 pm Eastern time introduction is February 16 first class February 23rd. No charge at this time, actually most of the services I provide to veterans is at no charge. It is my way to say thank you to all my veteran family for serving. I would like to extend a personal thank you to you for serving and sacrificing your time to protect this great nation.
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Doug Macdonald
SFC Russell Shaw, Thank you for what you are doing for our veterans. If there is anything I can do in support of your initiatives just let me know.
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SFC Russell Shaw
Mr. MacDonald,
This is what I do for a living so these classes or Mastermind's are paid by others. Your help would be greatly appreciated. I am working on a survey to drive people to my landing page should have it done in the next couple of weeks. If you could send it out to your mailing list that would help. As the more paying customers I have the more I can help our Veterans. I know your mailing list is important and you protect those on it so if you could just forward that would be great and if that is uncomfortable for you that is okay.
This is what I do for a living so these classes or Mastermind's are paid by others. Your help would be greatly appreciated. I am working on a survey to drive people to my landing page should have it done in the next couple of weeks. If you could send it out to your mailing list that would help. As the more paying customers I have the more I can help our Veterans. I know your mailing list is important and you protect those on it so if you could just forward that would be great and if that is uncomfortable for you that is okay.
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When I was seven years old, I knew what I "wanted" to be...a Navy fighter pilot. Time and effort proved that I wasn't "cut out" to be one...so, I revised my "wants" and became (I hope) an ok Naval Officer. Just about the time I decided that I once again knew what I "wanted" to be...the Navy decided they didn't need me...that time, I didn't "revise" my wants, and managed to get back in for a short time until not only did the Navy not "need" me...but there wasn't really anywhere they could send me either.
Now, I accept that I will do what I have to do...not what I want to do. I've come to realize that my responsibilities as a husband and father negate any notions of limitations or restrictions on what I will do to make ends meet. If I can continue to sell catalyst for twenty years...great. If I have to dig ditches and be a stockman at Lowes...I can do that as well.
Still, no matter what I may do, when I look in the mirror, I'll always see the same guy...and he's always going to be a Sailor :)
Now, I accept that I will do what I have to do...not what I want to do. I've come to realize that my responsibilities as a husband and father negate any notions of limitations or restrictions on what I will do to make ends meet. If I can continue to sell catalyst for twenty years...great. If I have to dig ditches and be a stockman at Lowes...I can do that as well.
Still, no matter what I may do, when I look in the mirror, I'll always see the same guy...and he's always going to be a Sailor :)
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SFC Russell Shaw
We are always developing who we are much more than what we are. Everyone asks us as kids what we want to be, but the more important questions is who do we want to be. That realization makes it easy to do many things as we are defined by who we are.
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Doug Macdonald
SFC Russell Shaw - I once wondered how many times I was asked that question between birth and 21. My answer was I don't want to grow up. I didn't know the childish wisdom in that.
Once you can move past the tags we as a culture like to put on people the question can change. The screen on my phone says " Be Blind & Listen". Just something I learned.
I think there is a parallel question. Why do you want to be? Wait someone said that before. It was SFC Russel Shaw.
Once you can move past the tags we as a culture like to put on people the question can change. The screen on my phone says " Be Blind & Listen". Just something I learned.
I think there is a parallel question. Why do you want to be? Wait someone said that before. It was SFC Russel Shaw.
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Doug Macdonald Great question, I believe you need to be the best you that you can be. I use self reflection throughout my day to be in tune with others that I interact with. Understanding the communication process and non-verbal communication helps balance situations. I l9ok8ng to when I leave the Military to be able to use these skills when I go to pursue a job.
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Doug Macdonald
@SFC (Private), You have a great handle on staying in the moment. That ability to "Seek to understand to be understood" will serve you well in the civilian world.
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There is no substitute for action, for doing something. As we liked to say, Do is half of done. Sitting around looking at your belly button contemplating life's vicissitudes will not get you very far. There is nothing wrong with knowing yourself and seeking self improvement/knowledge but doing that in absence of action is a delay tactic and will not serve you well.
Having a direction is good, even having a longer term goal is good but the more specific the goal and the more focused you are on it the less likely you might be to see opportunities on the periphery.
Having a direction is good, even having a longer term goal is good but the more specific the goal and the more focused you are on it the less likely you might be to see opportunities on the periphery.
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Doug Macdonald
Cpl Jeff N., Thanks for the input. Do is half done. If you don't know that what you are doing is what's going to make your life enjoyable? You might want to take a few minutes not contemplating life's vicissitudes (or your belly button) but what truly makes you put your feet on the ground at 0 dark early and smile.
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Vikki Nicometo
Agree that you need to take action but first know the goal. You wouldn't ant to jump in the car for a long road trip without a destination in mind...oh, wait, bad analogy! That actually sounds fun! But you get the point - there needs to be a goal in mind other than "just get a job." Trust me, employers can ferret that out.
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I think you should be focused on what the job entails, & at least be interested in it. I would hate to have a job I wasn't interested in or didn't enjoy. It would make it hard to suit up & show up everyday.
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Doug Macdonald
SPC James Dollins, Thanks for the input. That part about "suit up and show up every day" is the key. If you don't know what you are passionate about it will always just be a job. When you "suit up and show up" with passion it's a journey. Corporate America is looking for that passion.
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IMHO, it is impossible to do the latter without the former in place. If not, you'll just end bouncing from job to job.
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Doug Macdonald
SCPO (Join to see), From the corporate perspective that's one of the primary complaints I hear. "We can hire veterans but we can't seem to keep them." I am constantly working with corporate America on this topic to help them understand why. The reason always comes back to passion and mindset.
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I think in order for you to get where you really want to be, you need to have a clear path. You need to understand your strengths & weaknesses. Once you know those you can adapt to pretty much anything, & overcome.
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You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want. (Zig Ziglar)
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Doug Macdonald
CMSgt Mark Schubert, That is the best reponseI have gotten so far. That's my life's purpose. If you do the right things for the right people for the right reasons everything else falls into place.
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Justifying irrationality due to pride, and self-deception based on ego are the enemies of civilian survival. Six things I learned going through this process.
1. Honesty isn't painful.
2. This is not used to showcase faults.
3. It doesn't create reality, it reveals it.
4. It's not a revelation but an incremental journey of discovery.
5. It's a private journey that no one sees.
6. REDUCES potential for failure.
If you would like some guidance on this journey I suggest you look at "The Prior Service Entrepreneur-The Fundamentals Of Veteran Entrepreneurship." You can get an author-inscribed copy. It was a key factor in this civilians survival through PTSD and the transition journey.
Don't let the title fool you. The first 2/3 of the book deals with developing the "Optimal Mindset for Success. This was written by a veteran for veterans.
https://squareup.com/market/phase-2-advantage/the-prior-service-entrepreneur-the-fundamentals-of-veteran-entrepreneurship
1. Honesty isn't painful.
2. This is not used to showcase faults.
3. It doesn't create reality, it reveals it.
4. It's not a revelation but an incremental journey of discovery.
5. It's a private journey that no one sees.
6. REDUCES potential for failure.
If you would like some guidance on this journey I suggest you look at "The Prior Service Entrepreneur-The Fundamentals Of Veteran Entrepreneurship." You can get an author-inscribed copy. It was a key factor in this civilians survival through PTSD and the transition journey.
Don't let the title fool you. The first 2/3 of the book deals with developing the "Optimal Mindset for Success. This was written by a veteran for veterans.
https://squareup.com/market/phase-2-advantage/the-prior-service-entrepreneur-the-fundamentals-of-veteran-entrepreneurship

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