Posted on Oct 12, 2015
Have Participation Trophies hurt or helped our societal culture?
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After a football awards ceremony, a proud father is surprised to see his son received a participation trophy. He decides to take matters into his own hands b...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v-gwjJ_NXKU
The science suggests that we need to be praise our kids on process, not results. For example, instead of dealing with defeat by telling our kids that “everyone’s a winner at heart,” we should praise them for how hard they hustled, what they did right and how they improved.
But it’s not just the “losers” we need to worry about; it’s the “winners” too. Phrases like “You’re a winner” or “You’re a natural” can actually be toxic to how kids deal with losing. As the work of child psychologist Carol Dweck shows us (link is external), praising kids for their innate talents (in this study’s case, their intelligence) actually makes it more difficult for them to cope when they’re actually confronted with losing. Kids who are praised for their effort rather than their ability tend to strive harder, enjoy activities more, and deal with failure in a more resilient way.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-new-you/201409/should-we-give-our-kids-participation-trophies
The science suggests that we need to be praise our kids on process, not results. For example, instead of dealing with defeat by telling our kids that “everyone’s a winner at heart,” we should praise them for how hard they hustled, what they did right and how they improved.
But it’s not just the “losers” we need to worry about; it’s the “winners” too. Phrases like “You’re a winner” or “You’re a natural” can actually be toxic to how kids deal with losing. As the work of child psychologist Carol Dweck shows us (link is external), praising kids for their innate talents (in this study’s case, their intelligence) actually makes it more difficult for them to cope when they’re actually confronted with losing. Kids who are praised for their effort rather than their ability tend to strive harder, enjoy activities more, and deal with failure in a more resilient way.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-new-you/201409/should-we-give-our-kids-participation-trophies
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A poster on a football site I go to asked why are the Russian SMs so inept? I wrote in the US Army our model of training is Task, Conditions, and Standards. The standards must be met. I firmly believe we have lowered the standards of achievement for the younger generation.
When I was in highs school I took hard classes, played 3 sports, and still partied. I rarely see that kind of drive in our kids now days. They are relatively sedentary in their life and some bitch that their phones put added pressure on their lives. They are soft.
When I was in highs school I took hard classes, played 3 sports, and still partied. I rarely see that kind of drive in our kids now days. They are relatively sedentary in their life and some bitch that their phones put added pressure on their lives. They are soft.
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I believe this whole crap of giving partisipation trophies is stupid and is harming our future leaders, if you want to call them leaders at all. I am involved in garden tractor pulls with my grandkids. Sometimes the win,(not often) sometimes they lose but it shows them what the real world is like. We don't have participation trophies. This is just a bunch of good old boys and their kids having fun, and that's the way it should be. They need to learn that in the real world, you dont always win.
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I liked my dad's approach. No false praise or comforting platitudes.
When I didn't do so well, he asked the same series of questions.
_Are you happy with the results?
_If so, do you want to get an Icee? If not, is "better" worth more time and effort?
_If better is worth it, what are you willing to sacrifice to get "better?"
_Is "better" really worth the sacrifice?
_What could he do to help? (He always made me develop my own improvement plan with a little light advice when I thought I had it.)
When I didn't do so well, he asked the same series of questions.
_Are you happy with the results?
_If so, do you want to get an Icee? If not, is "better" worth more time and effort?
_If better is worth it, what are you willing to sacrifice to get "better?"
_Is "better" really worth the sacrifice?
_What could he do to help? (He always made me develop my own improvement plan with a little light advice when I thought I had it.)
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I personally believe that for the most part that partisapation trophies are dumb. Not every one can be a winner. So what? Life is full of up's and down's It's better to get used to it and accept it and move on.
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Yes. Just like giving gold service stripes to everyone over 12 years. So in other words the person that the gets the same reward even though they have been busted or at least been in trouble. Come on people,this really shouldn't even be a
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Why do your best if you get a trophy for showing up? It defeats the purpose of competition.
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In my opinion it was a well intended “thing” for the very young children that went sideways really bad. It took away the ‘feel good’ for those that competed and did well (1,2,3) by the PC police. When it comes down to putting the rubber on the road the the everyone winner won’t be able to do it. Also sets up for adult whiners to wonder why they get passed over for promotions, advancements, bonuses etc.
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The whole idea of participation Trophies suck. Here is a personal thing that happened to me. My little girl played softball as a kid, Around 12 years old. She and her team were just average. The top team then was sponsered by the Dairy Queen and they were good ball players. It was customary then after a game that all teams would go to the Dairy queen for a free cone. At the Dairy Queen someone for the opposing said "You girls won so we are buying all winners Blizzards". This pissed off me and some of the supporters of the losing team, our kids, so we bought the kids on our team bananna splits which were more expensive then their Blizzards. One snotty little girl on the opposite team wined that it wasn't fair that the girls who lost got a better prize than the winners. Now my little girl is in her 40's has an MBA and is working for a large insurence company so it all worked out good for her. I compete in antique thactor pulls and havent won yet, but still enjoy it and will continue to do it. we don't have or want partisipation trophies. These liberal woke idiots don't have a clue of how real life works.
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