Posted on Feb 19, 2016
If you knew back then what you know now, what changes would you have made while in the military?
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Two exwives - would of done better without them, or at least less headache & heartache
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MSgt Daniel Attilio
CPT (Join to see) - the first wife said I worked too much - like theres much choice as a Sgt in the Marine Corps. The second well, after 4 near back to back deployments she opted to pop smoke. Worked out for the better I think as it allowed me to find my wife that seems like as near a perfect match as I can imagine. Prior Navy so she is familiar with the Marine jargon and mentality and believe she is the reason I have been able to accomplish much of what I am proud of as far as personal achievements go.
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MSgt Daniel Attilio
PO2 Brian Harrington - I was a bit angry after the first but it was after the second I became a real evil a-hole for a while, and there was probably a bit of PTSD in the mix.
My wife knows the whole story and she has told me that she is surprised I am not more "broken" than I am. All interesting experiences for my life story I guess.
My wife knows the whole story and she has told me that she is surprised I am not more "broken" than I am. All interesting experiences for my life story I guess.
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MSgt Daniel Attilio -
That's awesome. Congratulations. I think that's probably the best situation. On top of the hours then reality set in for mine, EVERY male person I work with was viewed as a threat. Sad. Thanks for sharing your success story.
That's awesome. Congratulations. I think that's probably the best situation. On top of the hours then reality set in for mine, EVERY male person I work with was viewed as a threat. Sad. Thanks for sharing your success story.
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SSG Melvin Nulph
MSgt Daniel Attilio - Glad to hear you have so!some now willing to work with you to make it a better one. I've had three myself, do not want to look for another do to the condition I am now in. But will never give up on the little things of life to make life worth living.
Good luck on the happy ending and do not make it anytime soon, to much for the two of you to enjoy out there and you'll need a full life to see even a small part of it.
Good luck on the happy ending and do not make it anytime soon, to much for the two of you to enjoy out there and you'll need a full life to see even a small part of it.
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i would've stayed single...i would've stayed in...i would've saved more money...i would've finished my degree...and i would've kicked every single one of those jerk offs in the balls who sexually harassed and assaulted me period
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Sgt Joe LaBranche
It never too late, Sgt Tammy Wallace! God bless you and give you the strength to forgive and become the best person you can be. I am sorry for your negative experience, but pray that you move forward and enjoy happiness!
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SR Terrilynne Porst
Yes ma'am it is. I got 70% from my first claim. When I filed for increase, I got 100% total and permanent within 5 months of filing.
It took me 23 years to help, not knowing it was PTSD that was affecting my life in between.
It took me 23 years to help, not knowing it was PTSD that was affecting my life in between.
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SP5 Robert Ruck
I would have helped you kick some asses. No one on earth deserves that type of disrespect, especially those in our military.
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Sgt Aaron Kennedy, MS
Sgt Joe LaBranche I finished the BS already. Working on MS now. I was just slow on the uptake. I was 6~ credits away when I got out was all. Just should have started sooner.
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Sgt Joe LaBranche
All that counts, SGT Aaron Kennedy, is that you didn't give up! You will be successul. Hod bless you and watch over you!
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GySgt Kenneth Pepper
Amen!!! My number 1 would be to stay enrolled in at least 1 class at all times. TA is probably one of the least used benefits available. Not to mention on-base education centers.
I waited until after I retired and used Post 9/11 MGIBill. Drawing the BAH while taking classes was nice, but I would have a PhD. by now if I started earlier.
I waited until after I retired and used Post 9/11 MGIBill. Drawing the BAH while taking classes was nice, but I would have a PhD. by now if I started earlier.
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I would have invested in silver bullion when it was $2 an ounce, maybe even some gold.
I served from 93-04 and I would have still served. Joining the Army was the best decision I ever made. Not staying in for 20 was one of the top 10 worst decisions I've ever made.
I served from 93-04 and I would have still served. Joining the Army was the best decision I ever made. Not staying in for 20 was one of the top 10 worst decisions I've ever made.
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Sgt Joe LaBranche
I hear ya, SGT Jimmy Carpenter...I believe therr sre a lot of guys out there thonking the same thing. What that thing they say about hindsight being 20 20?
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My time was truly well spent in the military. I served in three branches. I would have advised my younger self to stick with active duty for the entire career in one branch, the US Air Force. Also, I should have saved more of my money but what has been done is now gone. Praise the Lord and pass the ammunition!
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I would have required my Navy recruiter to take a polygraph test before I signed up for 8 years!!!
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I never would have threatened my SJA and Assistant SJA (two of my three reporting seniors, as a half defense counsel and half legal assistance attorney-the other was the Senior Defense Counsel, a Lt. Col. who was located at Camp Pendleton and rarely observed me as one of his part-time defense counsels) with a State Bar Complaint, for pushing forward on a Administrative Discharge Board (prosecutors are required to investigate exculpatory evidence during a prosecution and to notify and turn over to defense counsel exculpatory evidence during a criminal prosecution) for a Career Marine Staff Sergeant with a prior spotless record in the Marine Corps, including two meritorious promotions (His Warrant Officer Supervisor said he was one of the hardest working and best Marines whom he had ever worked with or who had worked for the Warrant Officer) in light of last minute, exculpatory evidence, that the Marine Staff Sergeant was NOT guilty of stealing anything of value when he plead guilty to one count of receipt of stolen Property in State Court here in California. His entire Administrative Discharge Board was based upon that one civilian conviction, and therefore was the sole reason the Marine Corps had sent him to an Administrative Separation Board.
I would have just kept my mouth shut, and wrote up the complaint with my evidence of their misconduct and let them and the Marine Corps deal with my formal and official allegations. Making that verbal threat (even though it was legit) was the beginning of the end of my short Marine Corps career.
When you get older and hopefully wiser, you learn to maneuver through minefields, avoid the Rocks and Shoals, and you learn that if you observe official misconduct by office holders, you never verbalize your complaint, you reduce everything to an objective writing, supporting everything you allege with as much documentary evidence as possible (affidavits, declarations, official records, etc.).
You also may write out your allegations of malfeasance when you are "Hot" as Lincoln said, but you mail or hit send, when you are cool. Even then, you have to be willing to face reprisals as a Whistle Blower, like Major James Weirick, who filed an IG Complaint in March 2013, against the then Commandant of the Marine Corps, Gen. Amos, and informed the Defense Counsel for one of the "Taliban urination" prosecution cases Marines, that Commandant Amos had committed UCI ("Unlawful Command Influence") when he told Lt. Gen Waldhauser in an in-person meeting, who was then the Convening Authority for the Taliban Urination cases, that he wanted the Marines involved, "crushed." Weirick ultimately retired as a Lt. Col. but was retaliated against for blowing the Whistle on Commandant Amos, including being investigated, having his security clearance suspended, email account or privileges suspended, promotion unlawfully witheld (that happened to me-only the Secretary of the Navy has the authority to withhold a promotion, once it has been approved, like Lt. Col. Select Weirick, I had been selected for promotion to captain, but had not pinned it on, when I made my allegations), removed from his position as an assistant SJA, and was ordered to surrender his personal firearm, and also ordered to undergo a psych screening, among other things.
"According to the Marine Corps, Weirick was relieved due to e-mail harassment of Peter Delorier, a civilian attorney and advisor to the CMC, and one of the individuals he named in his complaint to the IG.
The Marine Corps relieved Maj. Weirick of his post, ordered him to relinquish his personal firearms, and ordered him to report to Navy officials for a “psychiatric evaluation.”
The Marine Corps’ concern about the content and tone of Weirick’s emails to Delorier appears to bet the heart of their move to force Weirick into a psychiatric eval. According to the Marine Corps Times reporting, Weirick sent a series of emails in which he refers to himself in the third person – a peculiar construction which indicates that Weirick’s methods may have become… unsound, believes Jason Van Steenwyk, the author of this article. “He can’t offer you protection from Weirick. That protection can’t be offered by anyone. Ever,” Weirick wrote, referring to Delorier’s boss.
The emails led Marine Corps officials to issue a restraining order barring Maj. Weirick from communicating with Gen. Amos, Delorier, and several other people, and prohibits Weirick from coming within 500 feet of them."
http://www.militarytimes.com/story/military/archives/2013/08/19/whistle-blower-alleges-reprisal-by-marine-brass-says-he-won/78541570/
The above illustration is another reason to be very careful regarding the content of official military email communications, as we have been discussing. I am sure Lt. Col. Weirick (ret.) regrets sending some of those emails, and their contents and the way he drafted them, the way I regret having verbally threatening my immediate Superiors with a State Bar Complaint. I personally and professionally know a medically retired (Iraq combat/IED injury) retired Marine Lt. Col. JAG who was one of Weirick's former supervisor's and mentors, and he told me that Weirick's peculiar habit of speaking in the third person is part of his "schtick" and he was known by his peers in the JAG Community of the Marine Corps to refer to himself in the third person as "The Weirick." I guess it was something like Pilots calling themselves by their Call Signs or Nicknames, but it doesn't translate well, especially when people are reviewing your professional email communications and trying to figure out if you are unhinged or have become emotionally unstable.
Most Military lawyers do their "combat" in a courtroom or by by trying to stay true to what they know is the right thing to do, by the Marines, Soldiers, Sailors, and Airmen who are their clients or when, like Major Weirick, they discover wrongdoing by senior, even flag level officers, and feel duty bound to report it.
I was so proud of Major Weirick, when I learned about him, and I found out that there are still JAGS in the Marine Corps that put honor before their careers or self-advancement or even self-preservation. He had insider information about the Commandant that he could have sat on, and no one would ever have known. Like me, he didn't do everything perfectly, but he did the best with what he had, and where he was at, in his position as a Deputy SJA of a Major Marine Corps Command. Major Weirick, unlike me, was a career Marine Officer who had succeeded in numerous assignments and billets, and had the respect and acknowledgment of his peer group and had MOS credibility that he had earned in more than ten years of service. Because of that, I think it was even more remarkable that he did what he did, and I see him head and shoulders above anything I might have done in my very short time as a Marine JAG in active duty.
He had every reason to "keep quiet"but he did the right thing as he understood it, at a terrible cost to his career, and I am sure it will take him years like it did me, to heal from the devastation of leaving a culture and an Organization that you had believed in with all your heart and soul.
MAJ Ken Landgren COL Mikel J. Burroughs CDR Michael Goldschmidt CPT (Join to see) SMSgt Thor Merich
http://www.militarytimes.com/story/military/2015/12/20/federal-judge-ordered-pentagon-to-unseal-secret-files-on-former-marine-commandant-james-amos/76676004/
I would have just kept my mouth shut, and wrote up the complaint with my evidence of their misconduct and let them and the Marine Corps deal with my formal and official allegations. Making that verbal threat (even though it was legit) was the beginning of the end of my short Marine Corps career.
When you get older and hopefully wiser, you learn to maneuver through minefields, avoid the Rocks and Shoals, and you learn that if you observe official misconduct by office holders, you never verbalize your complaint, you reduce everything to an objective writing, supporting everything you allege with as much documentary evidence as possible (affidavits, declarations, official records, etc.).
You also may write out your allegations of malfeasance when you are "Hot" as Lincoln said, but you mail or hit send, when you are cool. Even then, you have to be willing to face reprisals as a Whistle Blower, like Major James Weirick, who filed an IG Complaint in March 2013, against the then Commandant of the Marine Corps, Gen. Amos, and informed the Defense Counsel for one of the "Taliban urination" prosecution cases Marines, that Commandant Amos had committed UCI ("Unlawful Command Influence") when he told Lt. Gen Waldhauser in an in-person meeting, who was then the Convening Authority for the Taliban Urination cases, that he wanted the Marines involved, "crushed." Weirick ultimately retired as a Lt. Col. but was retaliated against for blowing the Whistle on Commandant Amos, including being investigated, having his security clearance suspended, email account or privileges suspended, promotion unlawfully witheld (that happened to me-only the Secretary of the Navy has the authority to withhold a promotion, once it has been approved, like Lt. Col. Select Weirick, I had been selected for promotion to captain, but had not pinned it on, when I made my allegations), removed from his position as an assistant SJA, and was ordered to surrender his personal firearm, and also ordered to undergo a psych screening, among other things.
"According to the Marine Corps, Weirick was relieved due to e-mail harassment of Peter Delorier, a civilian attorney and advisor to the CMC, and one of the individuals he named in his complaint to the IG.
The Marine Corps relieved Maj. Weirick of his post, ordered him to relinquish his personal firearms, and ordered him to report to Navy officials for a “psychiatric evaluation.”
The Marine Corps’ concern about the content and tone of Weirick’s emails to Delorier appears to bet the heart of their move to force Weirick into a psychiatric eval. According to the Marine Corps Times reporting, Weirick sent a series of emails in which he refers to himself in the third person – a peculiar construction which indicates that Weirick’s methods may have become… unsound, believes Jason Van Steenwyk, the author of this article. “He can’t offer you protection from Weirick. That protection can’t be offered by anyone. Ever,” Weirick wrote, referring to Delorier’s boss.
The emails led Marine Corps officials to issue a restraining order barring Maj. Weirick from communicating with Gen. Amos, Delorier, and several other people, and prohibits Weirick from coming within 500 feet of them."
http://www.militarytimes.com/story/military/archives/2013/08/19/whistle-blower-alleges-reprisal-by-marine-brass-says-he-won/78541570/
The above illustration is another reason to be very careful regarding the content of official military email communications, as we have been discussing. I am sure Lt. Col. Weirick (ret.) regrets sending some of those emails, and their contents and the way he drafted them, the way I regret having verbally threatening my immediate Superiors with a State Bar Complaint. I personally and professionally know a medically retired (Iraq combat/IED injury) retired Marine Lt. Col. JAG who was one of Weirick's former supervisor's and mentors, and he told me that Weirick's peculiar habit of speaking in the third person is part of his "schtick" and he was known by his peers in the JAG Community of the Marine Corps to refer to himself in the third person as "The Weirick." I guess it was something like Pilots calling themselves by their Call Signs or Nicknames, but it doesn't translate well, especially when people are reviewing your professional email communications and trying to figure out if you are unhinged or have become emotionally unstable.
Most Military lawyers do their "combat" in a courtroom or by by trying to stay true to what they know is the right thing to do, by the Marines, Soldiers, Sailors, and Airmen who are their clients or when, like Major Weirick, they discover wrongdoing by senior, even flag level officers, and feel duty bound to report it.
I was so proud of Major Weirick, when I learned about him, and I found out that there are still JAGS in the Marine Corps that put honor before their careers or self-advancement or even self-preservation. He had insider information about the Commandant that he could have sat on, and no one would ever have known. Like me, he didn't do everything perfectly, but he did the best with what he had, and where he was at, in his position as a Deputy SJA of a Major Marine Corps Command. Major Weirick, unlike me, was a career Marine Officer who had succeeded in numerous assignments and billets, and had the respect and acknowledgment of his peer group and had MOS credibility that he had earned in more than ten years of service. Because of that, I think it was even more remarkable that he did what he did, and I see him head and shoulders above anything I might have done in my very short time as a Marine JAG in active duty.
He had every reason to "keep quiet"but he did the right thing as he understood it, at a terrible cost to his career, and I am sure it will take him years like it did me, to heal from the devastation of leaving a culture and an Organization that you had believed in with all your heart and soul.
MAJ Ken Landgren COL Mikel J. Burroughs CDR Michael Goldschmidt CPT (Join to see) SMSgt Thor Merich
http://www.militarytimes.com/story/military/2015/12/20/federal-judge-ordered-pentagon-to-unseal-secret-files-on-former-marine-commandant-james-amos/76676004/
Whistle-blower alleges reprisal by Marine brass, says he won't back down
Maj. James Weirick had seen enough.
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CDR Michael Goldschmidt
Some of our cherries get popped early, Capt Lance Gallardo. Military justice is not justice at all, but a tool to keep supposed good order and discipline. I'm choking as I type the words. Most, as you know, is at the discretion of the Commander or Commanding Officer, which makes Military Justice tyranny and worst and politics at best. As for speaking out, I applaud you and also point out that I was passed over twice for Commander, because, mostly, I refused to play the game. Ultimately, it took letters to the selection board from four Senior Officers to get me promoted, two of which were flag officers at the time. All four, as it turned out, retired as flag officers. Then, my prize was to get mobilized early to the Middle East and sent ashore to that landlocked garden spot we know as Afghanistan: truly heaven on earth for a naval officer, especially one with a name like Goldschmidt. Semper Fi, Marine. Make sure you give Saint Peter the secret handshake when you arrive, but be forewarned, he's likely to put you on the OD Watchbill.
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Capt Lance Gallardo
Funny! Yes I have often heard people say "military justice" is a contradiction, not a concept.
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SSgt Robert Marx
Unfairness in this life will be recompensed by the Judge to whom all will give an account.
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I would have not gotten married the first time, I would have retired instead of Getting out after 6.
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I would have stayed on active duty. I also would've stayed single. Overall though I'm happy with my experiences. I had the BEST times it's made me who I am today.
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Sgt Joe LaBranche
The military either brakes you or gives you resiliency! Sound like you got the resiliency! God bless!
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Would have joined the Coast Guard, get skipper qualified and run my own charter business in the Caribbean!
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SFC Jim Ruether
I coulda been your First Mate.........gosh you really screwed up my life! ha ha.
You look young enough maybe you can still do it sir!
You look young enough maybe you can still do it sir!
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