Military Networking Site not a Dating Site. Thoughts?

SFC Steven Borders, show us on the doll where RP touched you.

Meh...change your picture and/or simply say "Not interested". If someone is attractive, they get hit on. Unless you lock yourself in a closet and never come out, that's the way it's going to be.

When I say "hit on", I mean receive compliments and requests for attention that are polite and appropriate. Ex: "Wow, hi. You're pretty and I see we're stationed in the same town. Would you like to meet for coffee?" That isn't crude or distasteful. A simple yes or no should suffice. And before you say RP isn't a hookup site - you are right, it isn't. A grocery store or church aren't pickup bars either, but people meet romantic interests there all the time. I met my super hot and much younger wife of over 10 yrs on Everquest. :D

If you are receiving inappropriate comments that enter the realms of distasteful, uncivilized, or even sexual harassment - that's a different story. In that case, it doesn't matter where or how it happens, it's reportable and I would support anyone (male or female) that reported uninvited and unwanted comments that fall into the realm of sexual harassment. If not to the RP mods, report it up your chain. Remember the Navy guy that got hammered for posting on Twitter or FB that he was going to rape some Navy recruit. You can and will get hammered if you act like a moron on social media. People can and should report it.

Most importantly, I think people on both extreme sides just need to grow the f*** up. One side acts like a bunch of uncivilized primates that are either too crude or can't take no for an answer, and the other side is full of easily-offended, thin skinned pansies. Come to the middle where you can hit on someone with class and that person can tell you "not interested" without acting like they were just raped because you asked them out.

I heard the same thing about LinkedIn.

I am all for stamping out sexism and no tolerance for harrassment, but we can not eliminate some of what is just human nature.
Men are visual, and when we see a picture of an attractive woman, we are going to click on it, wonder if she is married (for those that even care) and wonder if she is stationed near us. We are going to wonder if, upon seeing our picture, thought the same thing.
It is similar to studies where people deemed attractive are going to have an easier time getting jobs, pay raises, promotions, assistance, etc etc.
YOu can try and manage this, but it might be wasted efffort to try and completely supress it.

what I hate...when guys do this, it kills the purpose of sites such as RP or LI, and then people stop going on there, and the opportunity is gone.

No! You will NOT bring mandatory SHARP training into RP!

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Is seeking Friends with few benefits... Male, female, other.. gender not important... Must be attractive...or kind of attractive, or at least clean and drug free, prefer non smoker. Must be open minded.. things can get kinky.. need to have an open mind, think outside the box to come up with solutions to unkink things that get kinked. Looking for a swap party....... One month we do a bike maintenance work party in my shop, next month in yours. Alcohol allowed only after the sweating, grunting, major physical exertion, lubes & oils and tools are put away.
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We are all adults. I think that everyone can take a little flirt here and there. You can still be successful and not be a stick in the mud. It's really not that serious. Plus a lot of you that are complaining probably won't have to worry about it anyway

Wait...you mean I am not going to meet cute military singles here. Darn popup advertisements.

Really I think there should be something done if it's happening. It's one thing to view someone's profile, it's another to send them messages bothering them about it.

SFC Steven Borders, I would like to see an example of where this has actually happened. I think you were eager to start a topic to get the points.

As usual there's the crowd that chimes in on UCMJ this and professionalism that. This site can be used for both socializing and for professional inquiries/mentoring. There must be a serious void in the actual lives of some military members when they need RP to be the leader they may not be in real life.

If there is anybody getting hit on then it shouldn't be an infraction of site rules unless it crosses over to harassment. The fact is men and women are sometimes attracted to each other. It's what propagates the species. In this overly PC/no spine military we have today it's a capital crime to look at a woman. Personally hitting on anyone is the last reason I come to RP. My wife gets pissed when I date.

If I had an influence point for every time I've been hit on here......

As of this post- not one comment (out of 43) from a woman user. I find that interesting and wanted to share.

That is all.