Posted on Jul 4, 2015
PO1 Shahida Marmol
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Being away from them is definitely the hardest part of my job. It also helps me focus on work, so that I am not a big crybaby the whole time. Everything I do is for them. Thank God for technology!
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COL Mikel Burroughs
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PO1 Shahida Marmol Great question! It is always tough to be away from your children for over 12 month period during a deployment. I just sent them emails when I could and made sure that I sent them letters asking about their month and what they were up to in school, etc. My youngest daughter actually spent some in the hospital when she fell off a trampoline and broke here femur - it was tough not to be there for her, but I got pictures of her in the hospital with a big cast all the way up her leg. The reunion when you get back is unforgettable. Now they are off to college and I get to see them once or twice a year again. It’s just the same when I see them - a real reunion.
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MAJ Robert (Bob) Petrarca
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You think about them, send them some surprises and cards and pictures every so often. Luckily we have the internet and plenty of communications to also have real time conversations when we can. On the flip side you try to bury yourself in work and extra circular activities so the limited down time does not get too lonely.
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SFC Stephen King
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Show them the good. Be cognitive of their feelings while your gone.

I tell people to keep their family involved. Explain that you will be gone but while your gone let them plan what vacation or purchase they want and it will help pass the time.
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PO1 Shahida Marmol
PO1 Shahida Marmol
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I bought them season passes to the amusement park and water park. We talk every chance I can get, just to let them tell me about their day (or week). I explain everything I have to do and we talk about priorities and why I have to be gone. My daughter thinks she wants to join the Navy too (she's 8).
My son has a harder time with it, but his bond stronger is with his dad. At least he doesn't feel lost while I'm gone, so I'm okay with it to an extent.
I do know as they're getting older, it's getting harder for me to stay in.
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SFC Stephen King
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My Son was the same it takes time. The good thing is you are keeping open communication
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