"B. All Army personnel in uniform are required to salute when they meet and recognize persons entitled to the salute. Salutes will be exchanged between officers (commissioned and warrant) and enlisted personnel, and with personnel of the Armed Forces of the United States..."
I think this is way too extreme the other way, personally. I'm in Command of a Brigade HHC so have a lot of people who outrank me in the Company I'm in Command of so, yeah, we get to know each other pretty dang well. There are Majors and LTCs whose wives and mine have got to be very close to during our deployment so when we got back, there are instances where we get together at someone's house, drink, relax, whatnot. When in those instances I may not say sir in casual conversation (as much, it'll still be habit) but I could never fathom calling them by their first name. As an XO, another Company Commander told me what you said - "don't call me sir when we're in a bar". So I didn't say sir but like I said, I sure as hell didn't think it'd be appropriate to call him by his first name.
While stationed at Fort Bragg I kept three pt belts, an extra set of black gloves, an extra fleece pt cap, and an extra beret in my trunk. I knew that even if I somehow managed to go all year without forgetting something myself, I would certainly need to square away someone else. My reserve uniform items were at various times used, and occasionally even returned, by my peers, my subordinates, senior noncommissioned officers, and officers of both the warrant and commissioned varieties. Especially when everyone works odd hours, people occasionally mess up.
A few months ago my PL left his beret in his car. He did not realize this until he had already showered and changed into his duty uniform. The only solution available to him was to exit the hangar and walk all the way across the parking lot without headgear. Although he was almost immediately asked where he was going without headgear, he was not counseled or reprimanded for this infraction because sometimes people make mistakes.
CHOOSING not to salute an officer of greater rank is not just disrespectful to that soldier. It is also disrespectful to all other soldiers of all other ranks, and it is detrimental to the good order, discipline, and morale of any group, unit, or organization. It clearly and concisely communicates that you have no regard for, or intention of maintaining for yourself, the standards to which your soldiers are held either by their own sense of duty and professionalism, or that of their other leaders.
I see your point, and agree on that level. I was looking at the pay grade - both E4 - and comparing the O1 v O2 in question.
As a Specialist, I did parade-up for Corporals. Had I the Corporal rank instead of the Specialist, I do not believe I would have 'pushed the issue', so to speak. In my ten years, I never saw that one pushed or enforced. What I did see, however, was deferment on a regular basis, and E1-3 grades really confused.
Then again, I also only encountered two Corporals between both enlistments. It was really a non-issue, as they 'didn't exist' (at least not in my unit).
Point well made, point taken.
Obviously, living in the BOQ we all knew each other by our first names and rank did not matter much at all, but in uniform and at work, that was a different story entirely.
FYI / I was in the Air Force so other services may have seen it differently.


Officers
Customs and Courtesies
Army
Saluting
AR 600-25
