Why do spouses insist on wearing uniform items that they didn't earn? Better yet, why are the military members letting them?

Coming from Active Duty in an infantry unit, I agree wives do not understand exactly what it means to serve and shouldn't be allowed to wear their spouses uniforms. Having said that, wives do sacrifice a lot more than people think. While in Ft Lewis, my wife left her family, job, friends, etc to be with me. She was their with nobody but supported me every step of the way. No my cars were not covered in stupid "Army Wife" stickers, but she deserves a lot of respect for keeping me motivated and moving forward.

My wife serves right beside me so this is not an issue here. She is Air Transport and I am Aircrew. She only wears the uniform according to regulation and honors the uniform when wearing it.

I think the blame here goes squarely on the military member to educate the spouse on uniform do's and don'ts. Also depends what uniform items we're talking about as not everything is considered official if worn a certain way. I wouldn't want my spouse wearing a jacket or a cap with crests or patches but there probably isn't anything wrong with it or with them having pride in the units we were assigned to...again.. there are limits and a whole lot of taste goes into it. Pick your battles, not everything should get your dander up.

I don't get it either I am a veteran and a active duty spouse, but I don't wear any of the gear. I just don't have the desire to wear it and the idea of draping a flag over me naked I find that is disrespecting the flag. I have tried to interact with other military spouses and I just get annoyed with most of them. And i find that the ones that don't work are the ones who usually wear the gear.

I think it should be also said that it isn’t just wives or girlfriends who do it. I have been in the company of men who wear their girl’s uniforms and rank. They flash it off as their own until asked about it and then claim they wear it to support their girl. I had a boyfriend ask me to have some old uniforms so her could wear them and I wouldn’t let him, but a lot of military women let the person they are with do it.

As a veteran, and a father of four, I maintain proper display of military items and the flag. I educate my daughters on the importance of reverence and respect, so that as adults they will have that foundation.
It's not the spouse that is at fault. It is the service member that is not properly policing his or her gear.

During 13 years of being married to the army, my wife would have nothing to do with it. "Thats your buisiness, raising your kids is mine"
The only military thing she wore was a ST Michael pendant but only on days I jumped.
Supported me and Instructed AFTB for a while but otherwise wanted nothing to do with the military.

I have even seen an officer's wife demand that she be saluted by lower enlisted due to the DOD sticker and name on her windshield. She is not the officer and doesn't deserve anything more than the respect she shows, in my opinion.

Sgt Sasha Cruz Me and my wife reside down in Castle Rock and periodcially go for a long walk on a cold day and she where my green fleece jacket that I brough back from OIF 05-07 every once in a great while and I wear the black one. That's all and we are usally together. She wears it because its warm. She would never remotley think about wearing any of my other old uniforms, plus all I have left is my my formal dining dress blues and my dress whites. I just didn't give those up because they cost so much for an officer (LOL). Great question by the way! Thanks

This has been going on for like 3 months Really? Sgt Aleksandra Cruz... I am a Wife of an 82nd Airborne Ranger .. I do not wear his gear. I think your issue is more about Women...Notice she says Self- entitled lazy.... hum .... I am just saying, maybe you need to take some live or get a psych evaluation. You are very upset, maybe a good vacation is in order. If anyone knows her they could recommend that. I think that is a good idea, she seems stressed.