Am I a bad NCO or just inexperienced?

At the End of the day you are not there to be their Friend....You are there to make sure they come home every time. I tell my boys the same thing....And there is an unlimited amount of different therapies we can try to gain the intended result. Like Maj. Bell said....I speak, you do...Any questions?

Your not a bad NCO for holding everyone your in charge of to certain standards, when I was a newly promoted Sgt I was the same way. One thing that my drill instructors told me that "stuck" was to take the characteristics from good leaders and remember the leaders with bad traits. I used that to develop my own leadership style. I think it's abit harder for females I noticed either your a pushover or a bitch I'd rather be a respected bitch than a pushover.

Be the example! There is no need to lose your cool, sometimes sarcasm can be a good tool. Some people don't like authority, they should be easy to pick out and you can still weed them out. They aren't needed.

Take a few leadership courses in the area. Times have changed but regulations haven't. Leadership skills are either inherent or their not, but they can still be learned. Also, if you haven't already, study the MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator) traits and learn how interact with different personalities.

You can do it, it just takes time and patience.

This problem will be pointed in many directions from the most junior to the most senior service member. What I have yet to see is somebody take accountability of their own shortcomings in this realm.

Certain implications hold true, whereevet the SM was before arriving to where they are assigned now of course structures them to behave a certain way. But, and I must stress this, it is our jobs as the new leader to enforce the standards to which our organization expects to be upheld.

This is not a one and done shop, there are many things recruits do not learn for whatever reason, and discipline and military life is one of the most challenging. “Give and inch, they’ll take a mile” it doesn’t matter what came before, what is now and what affects the now are what is most important.

So, you are not wrong to perform your duty of ensuring soldiers are trained to standard and uphold those standards.

I am widely known for a few things among my soldiers and peers. 1. They can trust me in knowing I will fight for them, whatever the issue, until I exhaust every possible option, at the expense of my own personal well-being at times. 2. I can be the easiest going person, will dive in and embrace the suck with them, and do not ask them to do anything I myself wouldn’t do, or would place them in a position that compromises them. And 3. I will straight up get in anyone’s ass for not maintaining standard or discipline. It’s really all I ask, I will do hip pocket training a couple times to ensure they understand what is expected, after that, corrective action.

What I’ve learned so far is that it is a respect thing. Of your soldiers respect you, they will understand your reasoning in upholding values, traditions, courtesy, etc. obviously it’s more difficult when the person in subject doesn’t know you, this is where being tactfully stern is of absolute necessity. If you maintain composure, you can influence and change anything

You should be congratulated! YOU are acting the part of an NCO, continue your actions but, remember to be fair and, if you give direction see that it is carried out. Anyone can give an order or task but it takes a leader to follow up and see that the task has been completed properly. And, any Soldier has the responsibility of making on the spot corrections as long as you are correct. Keep it up, you are on the RIGHT trail.

You simply do your job the best you know how and don't worry about it! Those people's lives may depend on you someday or on what you teach them. In fact, our entire country depends on you and people like you doing your job well. That's an awesome responsibility and it's a lot more important than being liked.

You are a Corporal, so someone thinks you are showing above-average leadership skills and turned you into an NCO early. You're now in that phase where other soldiers test you to see what they can get away with. You don't let them, so they think it's gone to your head or you're a bitch. Good for you! That means you're doing your job.

As an NCO, you're held to a higher standard. You are punished more harshly for any misconduct. You are held responsible not just for yourself, but for others. PVT Snuffy's not at formation? Where is he, CPL Thornberry? PFC Molly is out of uniform? Why is that, CPL Thornberry? You get hammered for the bad things your soldiers do.

A fellow officer once said, "I have become the Major I used to hate." The higher up you go, the more you can see the pressures coming downward onto the unit, and the more of that pressure is on YOU. We do try to keep the shit from rolling downhill, but we MUST maintain standards and accomplish our missions, or we're out.

My best advice to you is, be absolutely fair and professional. Reprimand in private, praise in public. You can be pretty easygoing and have a collaborative leadership style - ask for inputs, accept good ideas, don't micromanage - but be an unmoving brick wall when subordinates do wrong. Ask some senior NCOs -
the higher up, the better - for advice on written counseling and "re-training" techniques to address misbehavior.

You got this. Go for it!

COL Sage Thronberry------ New NCO, You have got to learn thing have changed now. You are going to have to develop the style that fit you. Until you are able to correct an individual in a normal tone they going to hate you. Now there are times when you have to speak a little stern but there is no need every time. What works for one doesn't mean it will work for you. LUCK TO YOU.

Bad NCOs don't usually ask if they're bad NCOs. You need to have a conversation with your peers and try to get everyone on the same page so as to present a united front. If one NCO is a hard charger but the rest don't enforce standards or are lax in their punishment soldiers will become soft. When I first got to my unit we were smoked basically from sun up to sun down for the smallest infractions, but we usually didn't make those same mistakes twice. Don't get me wrong its important to have some balance in leadership styles not everyone's response to every mistake should be pushups but regardless of what you as the backbone of your unit decide to do it needs to be united.

You are looking for excuses to fail. Get it right or let someone else do it