Posted on Jul 16, 2015
If getting/being married while serving was not allowed, would you still join?
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I'm surprised that no one else has mentioned the wisdom that we heard when serving (at least during the Vietnam era): If the military felt you should have a wife, they'd issue you one.
Today, our VFW post is helping young families of service members who can't afford them. They're breeding children they can't feed or keep in diapers. Some begrudge them their problem and think we should let them suffer the consequences of their mistakes. Others of us feel that the families shouldn't suffer just because they made a mistake.
Sure, let them marry, but give them guidance. Leaders, especially NCOs who interact daily with young service men and women stand in loca parentis. They should take the responsibility seriously...
Today, our VFW post is helping young families of service members who can't afford them. They're breeding children they can't feed or keep in diapers. Some begrudge them their problem and think we should let them suffer the consequences of their mistakes. Others of us feel that the families shouldn't suffer just because they made a mistake.
Sure, let them marry, but give them guidance. Leaders, especially NCOs who interact daily with young service men and women stand in loca parentis. They should take the responsibility seriously...
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The legions of Rome had did not marry or at least the soldiers on the lower rankings could not marry but I am sure many of them had unofficial marriages. I would still join but no government will keep me from being married.
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SPC Elijah J. Henry, MBA
At first I voted no, but your comment about unofficial marriages made me rethink things. I don't believe that a marriage needs any kind of a government sanction to be legitimate, so I would definitely have an 'unofficial' marriage while serving, if I couldn't be officially married.
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In the early 1990s then Commandant Gen Grey attempted to do something similar with the USMC. The blowback was palpable.
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Back when PX Kelley was the Commandant of the Marine Corps, he proposed that Junior Marines (Pvt -LCpl) not be allowed to marry, and 2ndLts and 1stLts not be allowed to marry unless they had deployed, or had completed one FMF tour. (I may have the details wrong, but that's close).
It went over like a turd in a punch bowl, more from the civilians than from serving Marines. At that time the divorce rate among Junior marines was getting close to 70% and among Lieutenants about 50%. Marine Corps wide, not including the high risk groups, it was about 25%) I don't know how that compared to the civilian world if you cut people in their teens and early 20's from the stats.
It went over like a turd in a punch bowl, more from the civilians than from serving Marines. At that time the divorce rate among Junior marines was getting close to 70% and among Lieutenants about 50%. Marine Corps wide, not including the high risk groups, it was about 25%) I don't know how that compared to the civilian world if you cut people in their teens and early 20's from the stats.
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Shouldn't really matter. If the engagement is several years, just gives you plenty of time to get your ducks in a row before eloping. If the fiance doesn't stay through the hardest few years in the beginning, they are not in it for the long haul anyway, and you shouldn't waste your time.
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