Should I report unprofessional behavior through the Chain of Command or an IG complaint?

Sounds like the O is putting her nose in 1SG's business ...and any 1SG worth his/her salt isn't going to tolerate it for an instant. I actually witnessed a 1SG tell a "butter bar" to keep his "officer's nose" out of his first sergeant's business ...of course that was a future Ranger Hall of Fame Inductee telling off the officer so these kind of guys are few and far between.

Had the same problem with a LT. before I retired I noted everything he did then took a trip over to the command master chiefs office and had a long discussion with him about this LT. The master chief noticed I was about three months out from retiring so he gave me tad orders to his office and the reason for this is because he knew as well as I did this LT just out right hated me for no good reason. it only took three weeks after I was gone for this LT to get relived this guy just stepped on his own dick. So I suggest you follow your chain of command it is always your best corse of action

Taking a little different approach to this than others. I don't think we have a good situation understanding/awareness. Is this a reserve unit or active duty? What is the professional relationship to the officer? In the chain of command? Why are you comparing the officer's action to and NCO doing the same to an officer (or lower enlisted to NCO)? That's apples and oranges. Is the NCO actually a sorry excuse? What was the reference to family? You have others quotes, but none reference to that. Family is obviously off limits, but want to confirm the truth to it. Seems like an add on statement. Was the initial incident in private or public?

So, we have one side of the sorry. It's important to get a good SU. I've seen before of privates butthurt about an NCO making a legitimate correction, taking the complaint to the commander, and a knee jerk reaction to reprimand a good NCO.

Assuming this is true, which could be as I've seen in the past, here are some option:
-Regardless, first try to have a conversation with the officer (when neither is heated by emotion). Be the adult if they aren't. Hope this was done earlier.
-If conversation doesn't work and not in COC, follow up with your COC.
-If in COC, ask for open door policy to see higher commander.

Reserves are slower than active duty. If going IG, be sure the officer isn't right about the NCO, as everything will come out.

The Chain of Command is always the place to begin. If I had witnessed this in my day that Captain and I would have had an offline discussion behind a closed door - respectful but direct. Sergeants Major and Master Sergeants are normally seasoned and can often rectify it at the lowest level. Of course it can be elevated if the captain fails to understand her shortfall and apologize. Most senior officers like it when they know that an attempt was made before it being brought to their attention.

She should be thankful the SFC maintained his composure. I've had a similar situation and it didn't go well for the officer. Remember if you open that door of disrespect there may be someone willing to dress you down also. If you cursed me, you most likely got the same in return, and I wasn't concerned with your rank. Remember rank gives no one the privilege of being disrespectful.

Report it. NO ONE should be treated with anything less than dignity and respect. CGOs are still being groomed for future leadership positions and toxic leadership is UNSAT.

Report it to the Chain of Command. If they fail to take appropriate action, take it to the IG.

As an "Old School" NCO, I remember a WWII vets CSM telling me as a young E4, If you ever want to get back at an officer, just wait for the right moment aND do EXACTLY what that young Officer tells you. No more, no less. It will work out...... (smile )

First and foremost is the chain of command. Since it is the CPT doing it and going as far as bringing in PERSONAL LIFE into an argument said CPT should face a reprimand board. Since the SFC CAN'T report it to the CPT he must then address it too the MASTER SGT. If that fails it should be reported to the FIRST SGT. If not resolved that way they must continue on up the ladder until it is resolved. Sounds like the CPT has blatant disrespect for this particular SFC.

If I were a troop, I would tell the Sgt Major. The Sgt Major has direct access to the CO. If the CO finds the Capt was out of line (How could you not?!!), then the CO can give the Capt a fitrep that will ensure they never get promoted again.

Always start with your chain of command.

Go with the IG. Chain of command is exactly what it implies; chain! Who wants the link in their chain broken? There's always a chance that you won't reach the top of that chain if necessary. Go with IG, or Jag!

Nothing's going to happen to that witch, not in today's military, she's a member of a protected class, she's bullet proof, and she knows it. Hell, she'll be the champion of the rest of the coven for striking a blow against the patriarchy, or some other such horseshit.

I would have beat the living shit out of that Bitch the moment she mentioned my family. I know that my career would have been over but NOBODY talks about my family, NOBODY!

Use the chain of command or you are jumping the Bn. Commander and the person with the influence, the SGM. Keep your EER's good, I imagine the CPT's OER will reflect her inappropriate behavior.

What led up to the ass chewing?

Staff, unfortunately in today's Army or better said, in the Army I have known for the last 16 years. Unless the particular CPT you are referring to is not well liked by their chain of command. Nothing you do or the SFC does is most likely going to resalt in any significant disciplinary action towards that CPT, no matter who you report it to. Furthermore, by reporting it right away to the chain of command or IG, all your doing is giving them a head-up to get a bigger rug to sweep it under. Now, maybe if the situation involved a Male CPT and a well connected female SFC, you might have a shot at a slap on the wrist.

Any good Senior NCO, should be able to hold his or her own with an out of line Captain, without having to to run to the IG with his or her tail between the legs. At this point in in his/her career, maybe the Captain's comments were understandable. Although the attack on the soldiers family is out of line, it's even more reason the Senior Sergent should have put the Captain in his/her place, and got on with NCO business of running the Army.

Maybe there's a reason this captain was able to do this. .. the senior NCO has no balls... if he stood there and listened to it. I bet had he said, Capt. we can talk in private or I walk. The capt continues, walk and see if that capt is willing to take it to NJP>

Well if that SFC was me I would have went straight to the BN CDR and CSM and if that didn't work just keep going up the chain. There will come a time when that CPT needs help from the NCOs of the unit and they should just let the young officer fail once or twice. That usually brings humility to them really quickly.