Why are you afraid of failure?

You can't succeed if you are afraid to fail. Winners take failure as incentive to work harder and achieve their goals. Losers see failure as a reason to stop. It is better to try and fail than never to try at all.

"It's not the critic who counts; Not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit goes to the one who is actually in the arena; Who strives valiantly; who errs and comes up short again and again; Who knows the great devotions, the great enthusiasms, and spends himself in a worthy cause. Who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement; and, at the worst, if he fails at least he fails while daring greatly; so that his place will never be among those timid and cold souls who know neither victory or defeat."

Theodore Roosevelt.

MSG (Join to see) Thanks so much for this awesome post, Master Sergeant! Like you said, failure might be difficult to swallow initially, but it makes you much stronger in the long run. It engenders even greater drive, determination, and hunger to succeed. It forces you out of your comfort zone and adjusts your frame of reference. It also makes you a lot mentally tougher, because if you can come back from getting your heart ripped out, you can turn any obstacle to your benefit.

"Failure is what happens when you decide you failed. Until then, you're still always looking for ways to get where you want to be." -Tim Grover, MJ 's strength & conditioning coach

This is something I "preach" with my staff. I tell them that they can't break anything that I can't fix, either with a more senior technician or with a purchase. The only thing they can't take risks with is people's data.

People learn by trying, and sometimes by failing. I want people to be comfortable enough to take risks and do great things. If they are always afraid of the repercussions of failure, they won't be able to do that.

After they try and fail, though, a leader must follow through on the promise to help out. I try to always use a failure as a teaching moment rather than a discipline event.

Failure is only failure if you fail to learn from it.

"You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space." Johnny Cash


If set unachievable goals and are consistently not reaching them lower you goal and let a small setback or failure lead you to succeed. I have tried to instill this thought process in my son and Soldiers alike. This also means hard work is a necessary aspect in life to overcome failure and gain personal growth.

My son had a hard time with tests and it took him a while to learn but it was the growth and failure which allowed him to achieve his goal on the ACT and he is going to college.

MSG (Join to see), failure in and of itself has no value, unless something is learned from it.

I heard this best expressed in the 2006 movie, "A Good Year". Uncle Henry Skinner beats young Max Skinner in tennis, who is furious. Uncle Henry counsels Max thusly, "You'll come to see that a man learns nothing from winning. The act of losing, however, can elicit great wisdom. Not least of which is, uh... how much more enjoyable it is to win. It's inevitable to lose now and again. The trick is not to make a habit of it."
COL Charles Williams CPT (Join to see)

You only fail if you don't try or don't get back up again. Setbacks teaches you what not to do next time. Do you think Waren Buffet or Donald Trump never failed. They did fail many times but they got tried again learning from temporary setback. May advice go out an tackle setbacks so you can reach your goals! Without tackling those setback you will never reach your goals.

Arnold’s 6 Rules to Success:

1. Trust yourself

Many young people are getting so much advice from their parents and from their teachers and from everyone. But what is most important is that you have to dig deep down, dig deep down and ask yourselves, who do you want to be? Not what, but who. Figure out for yourselves what makes you happy, no matter how crazy it may sound to other people.

2. Break the Rules

Break the rules, not the law, but break the rules. It is impossible to be a maverick or a true original if you’re too well behaved and don’t want to break the rules. You have to think outside the box. That’s what I believe. After all, what is the point of being on this earth if all you want to do is be liked by everyone and avoid trouble?



3. Don’t Be Afraid to Fail

Anything I’ve ever attempted, I was always willing to fail. So you can’t always win, but don’t afraid of making decisions. You can’t be paralyzed by fear of failure or you will never push yourself. You keep pushing because you believe in yourself and in your vision and you know that it is the right thing to do, and success will come. So don’t be afraid to fail.

4. Don’t Listen to the Naysayers

How many times have you heard that you can’t do this and you can’t do that and it’s never been done before? I love it when someone says that no one has ever done this before, because then when I do it that means that I’m the first one that has done it. So pay no attention to the people that say it can’t be done. I never listen to, “You can’t.” (Applause) I always listen to myself and say, “Yes, you can.”

5. Work Your Butt Off

You never want to fail because you didn’t work hard enough. Mohammed Ali, one of my great heroes, had a great line in the ’70s when he was asked, “How many sit-ups do you do?” He said, “I don’t count my sit-ups. I only start counting when it starts hurting. When I feel pain, that’s when I start counting, because that’s when it really counts.” That’s what makes you a champion. No pain, no gain.
But when you’re out there partying, horsing around, someone out there at the same time is working hard. Someone is getting smarter and someone is winning. Just remember that. Now, if you want to coast through life, don’t pay attention to any of those rules. But if you want to win, there is absolutely no way around hard, hard work. Just remember, you can’t climb the ladder of success with your hands in your pockets.

6. Give Back

Whatever path that you take in your lives, you must always find time to give something back, something back to your community, give something back to your state or to your country.

Remember these 6 rules. Trust yourself, break some rules, don’t be afraid to fail, ingore the naysayers, work like hell, and give something back.

Arnold Schwarzenegger

You should want to stand out as who you are. If you don't then what are you doing? Be willing to stand up for what you believe.

I am not afraid to fail but when I take big projects on I am usually very meticulous and thorough. I always try to ask what am I missing, what am I not thinking about, view the problem from others perspectives, ect.