Posted on Oct 22, 2014
Why do spouses insist on wearing uniform items that they didn't earn? Better yet, why are the military members letting them?
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If I see another spouse half naked in either military blouse or draped in flag, I might loose it. And then claim 'I serve to'. NO. YOU DON'T. 'Toughest job in ___(insert branch here)' I'm a military spouse and I am a Marine, and once I'm off contract, I will not be saying that we serve together while he's gone. I run the home. So do you. Period. Self-entitled lazy .......
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a girl friend or wife naked with a part of a marine corps uniform is fucking hot
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PO3 Donald Murphy
It always has been. What's happening now is that we're seeing a lot of it due to social media. Back in my day, you had to borrow your one friend's Poloroid and take photos of your wife/girl buck naked wearing just your cover or neckerchief. And as it was for you only, no one was any the wiser. Now with social media, everyone and their brother is seeing photos of private Jones and his naked girl wrapped in his division flag while using a flag as a thong. And again, this has been going on since the first day that Eastman Kodak looked at his naked wife and said "hey - I bet I can take a picture of that..."
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"Why do spouses insist on wearing uniform items that they didn't earn? Better yet, why are the military members letting them?"
Define Earn?
Define uniform item...
Is a uniform item still a uniform item when it is not being worn by a service member?> Or is it then just clothing and accessories?
I will assume for the sake of discussion we are not talking stolen valor and a spouse wearing military uniform items for the sake of posing as one.
My wife, a former Us Army member, has no desire to wear my uniform items, she had her own... But I will say... after many deployments with me gone many dozens of training events that had me gone, PDSS trips, Site survey trips, service schools, late nights, walking out the door in the morning and not coming home for days trips...help studying this or another.. To say my wife is not an integral part of my military career is false.
If she wanted to wear my fleece (no rank, no Us Army) I have no issue. If she wanted to wear my old BDU or ACU top around the house.. go for it...Army PT T shirt? Sure why not.
Would I feel ok with her wearing my ASU's to Walmart.. well of course not(actually Id prefer she not go to Walmart at all....)
Half naked wearing my ACU top....hmmm, I'll let you know how I feel about that after the weekend.. but NO there will not be video or pictures.
Define Earn?
Define uniform item...
Is a uniform item still a uniform item when it is not being worn by a service member?> Or is it then just clothing and accessories?
I will assume for the sake of discussion we are not talking stolen valor and a spouse wearing military uniform items for the sake of posing as one.
My wife, a former Us Army member, has no desire to wear my uniform items, she had her own... But I will say... after many deployments with me gone many dozens of training events that had me gone, PDSS trips, Site survey trips, service schools, late nights, walking out the door in the morning and not coming home for days trips...help studying this or another.. To say my wife is not an integral part of my military career is false.
If she wanted to wear my fleece (no rank, no Us Army) I have no issue. If she wanted to wear my old BDU or ACU top around the house.. go for it...Army PT T shirt? Sure why not.
Would I feel ok with her wearing my ASU's to Walmart.. well of course not(actually Id prefer she not go to Walmart at all....)
Half naked wearing my ACU top....hmmm, I'll let you know how I feel about that after the weekend.. but NO there will not be video or pictures.
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I would rather see an attractive female wrapped up in the flag then some asshole burning it in Fergusion!! Sgt USMC
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SGT I understand your feelings, however my spouse has run the household during two deployments the first was 15 month the second only 12. She did something similar to what you are referencing. It was more to motivate me and to let me know she was proud of what we where doing. She worked hard raising four other children while seven months pregnant. She is amazingly strong and a great helper. While your experiences with some dependapotimus may have soured your attitude; for some of us who have been gone for 11 months before we get to see our loved ones again it can help break up the lonliness. I would argue with managing the kids, household, bills and our small farm she did have a much tougher job than I did herding 55 Joes.
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SFC (Join to see)
I would also like to add that in most cases these photos are probably not intended for the public. In this day and age we tend to make everything public, shame on us as a society.
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SFC (Join to see)
That is a different issue all together, If my wife had tried that at any time we would have had words directly. She never had low self esteem enough to ride of the accomplishments or rank that I held.
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PO3 Donald Murphy
SFC (Join to see) - Its not a self-esteem issue. Its a training issue. She's doing it because she's seen someone else doing it. My civilian wife had no idea what the military was or entailed. My family did as dad was in the USAF. My wife had no idea what she could do/get away with and what she couldn't. So it was a learning curve. She did what she saw the other wives/girlfriends doing. Now from a Navy perspective, there is forced socialization via the wives' club which I agree with as it makes sure that everyone has a shoulder to cry on, support, etc. And they tended to meet regularly and do stuff together. And the older/experienced wives would mentor the younger ones, etc.
And what definitely doesn't help, is when the E-nothing at the gate, smartly salutes her and encourages her stupid behavior. The correct answer would be - "you don't warrant a salute maam. Have a nice day."
And what definitely doesn't help, is when the E-nothing at the gate, smartly salutes her and encourages her stupid behavior. The correct answer would be - "you don't warrant a salute maam. Have a nice day."
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Sgt Cruz, I think the answer to your question is that many people have lost respect for military service. I think what you are describing is a symptom of that. I would never, ever wear Sgt's Chevrons on my arm because I respect what they represent and know that I haven't earned them.
Today, there is very little that can be considered "sacred." We are taught from a young age to question all authority in all forms and that has bread what in my opinion is a systemic lack of esteem for anything.
I like to compare what you are talking about to the "everyone is a winner" mentality that is forced on our children in school. If everyone is a winner, then no one is, and no one respects those who achieve - hence why someone might think they could wear Sgt's Chevrons without earning them.
Even worse, I see some very disturbing "social experiments" being conducted in the military today that play no role whatsoever in improving our armed forces ability to fight and win our nation's battles - and like it or not, the average american sees that and it only reinforces their lack of respect. The military is supposed to be different from everyone else and I fear that is slowly becoming just another government job controlled by politicians.
And that is the ultimate disrespect to Marines like you - and all other services/veterans.
Today, there is very little that can be considered "sacred." We are taught from a young age to question all authority in all forms and that has bread what in my opinion is a systemic lack of esteem for anything.
I like to compare what you are talking about to the "everyone is a winner" mentality that is forced on our children in school. If everyone is a winner, then no one is, and no one respects those who achieve - hence why someone might think they could wear Sgt's Chevrons without earning them.
Even worse, I see some very disturbing "social experiments" being conducted in the military today that play no role whatsoever in improving our armed forces ability to fight and win our nation's battles - and like it or not, the average american sees that and it only reinforces their lack of respect. The military is supposed to be different from everyone else and I fear that is slowly becoming just another government job controlled by politicians.
And that is the ultimate disrespect to Marines like you - and all other services/veterans.
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Capt Richard I P.
Capt James Clement Symptoms of our society in general do indeed bleed through into military service. Great point.
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CPL (Join to see)
As active duty army as well as dual military, I have full respect for those spouses that are actually supportive towards their spouse's military career. South that said, I do NOT appreciate any non-military civilian trying to gain something from their spouse's career, I.e., constantly saying "we" have moved up a rank, or "we" just made sergeant. There was a wife at the fort hood gate check once in the car in front of me that wanted to make a complaint because the guard didn't salute her because her husband was a commissioned officer. THAT is the irritating factor. It's one thing to be supportive and stand up for your spouse as a US service member (soldier for us army), but it's another thing to some a position in the army and ask for the same respect. My husband is a rank above me, been in the same amount of time, same deployments, but I don't tell people "we" are sergeants. That's just not right
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PO1 Jerry Campbell
Actually the people you refer to lost respect never had respect in the first place. A true military spouse is a extremely vital role in the military and if it gives them a little comfort when their partner is absent then they should be allowed to wear what they want.
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PO3 Donald Murphy
CPL (Join to see) - Its a double edged sword. The E-nothing gate guard more often than not, is the catalyst. The correct answer should be "you don't warrant a salute maam, have a nice day."
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Nobody should feel entitled - it's certainly not a good characteristic to have as a leader - and all of us in military service need to be leaders - both on the job, at home and in the community. I do think having a supportive family is important to achieving military goals. The better you lead your family, the more chance for success you will have in the military. A military spouse serves the military member - and therefore indirectly the service itself - it reminds me of this poem.
"THE SILENT RANKS"
I wear no uniforms, no blues or army greens
But I am in the Army in the ranks rarely seen
I have no rank upon my shoulders - salutes I do not give
But the military world is the place where I live
I'm not in the chain of command, orders I do not get
But my husband is the one who does, this I can not forget
I'm not the one who fires the weapon, who puts my life on the line
But my job is just as tough. I'm the one that's left behind
My husband is a patriot, a brave and prideful man
And the call to serve his country not all can understand
Behind the lines I see the things needed to keep this country free
My husband makes the sacrifice, but so do our kids and me
I love the man I married, Soldiering is his life
But I stand among the silent ranks known as the Army Wife
Author: Unknown
Read more at http://www.scrapbook.com/poems/doc/2445.html#xDzx0eDTdAOeUfJT.99
In any case, I certainly agree spouses do not need to publicly profile themselves as service members!
"THE SILENT RANKS"
I wear no uniforms, no blues or army greens
But I am in the Army in the ranks rarely seen
I have no rank upon my shoulders - salutes I do not give
But the military world is the place where I live
I'm not in the chain of command, orders I do not get
But my husband is the one who does, this I can not forget
I'm not the one who fires the weapon, who puts my life on the line
But my job is just as tough. I'm the one that's left behind
My husband is a patriot, a brave and prideful man
And the call to serve his country not all can understand
Behind the lines I see the things needed to keep this country free
My husband makes the sacrifice, but so do our kids and me
I love the man I married, Soldiering is his life
But I stand among the silent ranks known as the Army Wife
Author: Unknown
Read more at http://www.scrapbook.com/poems/doc/2445.html#xDzx0eDTdAOeUfJT.99
In any case, I certainly agree spouses do not need to publicly profile themselves as service members!
I wear no uniforms no blues or army greens But I am in the Army in the ranks rarely seen I have no rank upon my shoulders salutes I do not give But the military world is the place where I live I m not in the chain of command orders I do not get But my hus
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If your wife is half-naked in your uniform why would you post those to a public forum in the first place? Seems like that should be a "private" picture. In the end they need to realize that and stop it. My wife has several pieces of moral gear and she likes to show them off but it definitely stops at my uniform items unless its just us.
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Sgt Sasha Cruz
CPO (Join to see) , typically it's the wife that will post the pictures on social media to show off how "great" she looks in pieces of uniform. :(
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Sgt Sasha Cruz somebody just tagged me today in this discussion you posted 5 months before I joined RallyPoint. You asked a great question which seems to be reverberating still :-)
My wife has never disrespected the flag of the USA. She escaped from communist Cuba the age of 14 decades ago and values her citizenship and all that its stand for.
My wife is proud of my military achievements and would never even consider wearing any military uniforms. The only thing my wife has ever worn of my military clothing are my old OD green tee-shirts for painting, and some of the socks I was given at Walter Reed Army Medical Center after my mitral valve surgery in 2003.
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My wife has never disrespected the flag of the USA. She escaped from communist Cuba the age of 14 decades ago and values her citizenship and all that its stand for.
My wife is proud of my military achievements and would never even consider wearing any military uniforms. The only thing my wife has ever worn of my military clothing are my old OD green tee-shirts for painting, and some of the socks I was given at Walter Reed Army Medical Center after my mitral valve surgery in 2003.
COL Mikel J. Burroughs LTC Stephen C. Maj William W. 'Bill' Price Capt Seid Waddell CW5 (Join to see) SMSgt Minister Gerald A. Thomas SGM David W. Carr LOM, DMSM MP SGT SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL SSG James J. Palmer IV aka "JP4" SSgt (Join to see)] SP5 Mark Kuzinski SGT John " Mac " McConnell SGT Robert George SP5 Robert Ruck SCPO Morris RamseyCPL Eric Escasio SPC (Join to see) SrA Christopher Wright SPC Margaret Higgins
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