Posted on Apr 25, 2017
Help for Men Who Are Being Abused: Escaping Domestic Violence by Women or Domestic Partners
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I know it's hard for a lot of men in abusive situations to admit it's happening. Being a woman myself I have seen how abusive woman operate! And when it comes down to the man not being able to take it any more and he leaves or kills his abusive partner he's considered a dirty SOB where as a woman is a victim defending herself!
I've seen bruises left on men where woman would beat them with frying pans! Poker sticks from the fire place and anything they can get their hands on. I also witnessed a friend who did call the cops on his wife a few times and as soon as they show up she turns into the victim! One cop even told my friend to grow some and put his wife in check!!
He was then asked to leave the household without his children whine he was protecting from his wife's violence.
I know it's sexy to have that wild pistal of a woman in your life, but their ain't nothing sexy about abuse. I don't care who's doing it. I will tell I did get hit once by a partner and he regretted that move! I laid him out cold with one hit and then got my Louisville Slugger and sat their waiting for him to wake up.
The smartest thing that man did after that was walk out my door!
@ COL Mikel J. Burroughs SFC William Farrell PVT James Strait GySgt Melissa Gravila MSgt George Cater SFC George Smith Maj Marty Hogan Capt Jeff S. Capt Seid Waddell PO3 Donald Murphy CPL Crystal Pettway, MBA Sgt Kelli Mays CPT Gabe Snell SSgt GG-15 RET Jim Lint Cpl Mark A. Morris CSM Charles Hayden LTC Trent Klug ] SGT (Join to see) Maj Kevin "Mac" McLaughlin
I've seen bruises left on men where woman would beat them with frying pans! Poker sticks from the fire place and anything they can get their hands on. I also witnessed a friend who did call the cops on his wife a few times and as soon as they show up she turns into the victim! One cop even told my friend to grow some and put his wife in check!!
He was then asked to leave the household without his children whine he was protecting from his wife's violence.
I know it's sexy to have that wild pistal of a woman in your life, but their ain't nothing sexy about abuse. I don't care who's doing it. I will tell I did get hit once by a partner and he regretted that move! I laid him out cold with one hit and then got my Louisville Slugger and sat their waiting for him to wake up.
The smartest thing that man did after that was walk out my door!
@ COL Mikel J. Burroughs SFC William Farrell PVT James Strait GySgt Melissa Gravila MSgt George Cater SFC George Smith Maj Marty Hogan Capt Jeff S. Capt Seid Waddell PO3 Donald Murphy CPL Crystal Pettway, MBA Sgt Kelli Mays CPT Gabe Snell SSgt GG-15 RET Jim Lint Cpl Mark A. Morris CSM Charles Hayden LTC Trent Klug ] SGT (Join to see) Maj Kevin "Mac" McLaughlin
Help for Men Who Are Being Abused: Escaping Domestic Violence by Women or Domestic Partners
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I have seen it. The problem with men is that they are raised to be men and to never hit a woman. They are also raised that you suck it up and move on. Most men don't feel like a man when they have to say they are being abused. When they do report it, it is like you said, the cops don't believe it and the female plays the role of victim and the male goes to jail only to return home to more abuse. I wish more men would see it for what it is...abuse period. When they are abused, walk out the door and go straight to the hospital and get it documented and and report it. That way the female isn't around and you can tell your story. Abuse is abuse...period. Unfortunately, it happens more than we know and is a growing epidemic.
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My mom raised us to be respectful, and she raised my brother to respect a woman until she thought she was big enough to take on a man! I was raised the same way, I wasn't allowed to hit girls growing up unless I was cornered. But she made it perfectly clear that if I ever hit a man that I needed to be prepaired to get hit back. The system enables people's.
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I'm 6' and 244lbs.
My brother makes me look thin. He is a decade older than me and when we were younger, picked up the back of a car once to have me change the tire.
Then in the 90's he was talking to me and told me how his wife hit him several times with a cast iron pan. He was getting very emotional and was trying to gather himself together. His words might of been saying one thing, but the tears in his eyes and face screamed something completely different. I asked if he called the sheriff? He said (ya, they came out looked around, saw the impact marks on his shoulders and back of his head. Then told him that they don't believe him, as in how could a woman 1/3 rd your size attack you like that?) Then they started handing out information about spousal abuse to his wife.
I asked what the doctors at the hospital said? He said there were no broken bones and that he is not paying for a doctor to put some damn butterfly's and tape on when he can do that himself.
I asked what the hell started this all? He started speaking about the 7 horses and how he is working so much driving truck, that not everything is getting done.
A year or so later they divorced.
My brother was a great guy, he was my best friend growing up. But after that the years ate at him. After how he saw the system work he now trusts nothing and I truly mean nothing.
No longer the person I grew up with, completely different.
What I learned was that as a man your size is your enemy. Because your a big strong guy the public automatically places you in the aggressive, abusive, non-listening and can take it all category.
You can be the kindest, softest, gentlest, nonviolent man in the world. But because your tall and muscular you can not be any of those positive qualities by public default.
My brother makes me look thin. He is a decade older than me and when we were younger, picked up the back of a car once to have me change the tire.
Then in the 90's he was talking to me and told me how his wife hit him several times with a cast iron pan. He was getting very emotional and was trying to gather himself together. His words might of been saying one thing, but the tears in his eyes and face screamed something completely different. I asked if he called the sheriff? He said (ya, they came out looked around, saw the impact marks on his shoulders and back of his head. Then told him that they don't believe him, as in how could a woman 1/3 rd your size attack you like that?) Then they started handing out information about spousal abuse to his wife.
I asked what the doctors at the hospital said? He said there were no broken bones and that he is not paying for a doctor to put some damn butterfly's and tape on when he can do that himself.
I asked what the hell started this all? He started speaking about the 7 horses and how he is working so much driving truck, that not everything is getting done.
A year or so later they divorced.
My brother was a great guy, he was my best friend growing up. But after that the years ate at him. After how he saw the system work he now trusts nothing and I truly mean nothing.
No longer the person I grew up with, completely different.
What I learned was that as a man your size is your enemy. Because your a big strong guy the public automatically places you in the aggressive, abusive, non-listening and can take it all category.
You can be the kindest, softest, gentlest, nonviolent man in the world. But because your tall and muscular you can not be any of those positive qualities by public default.
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Wish more men would speak up/out. This is not a one-sided thing. Women can be abusive as well.
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SMSgt Lawrence McCarter
CPL Pettway, You are correct, no one has a monopoly on abusive behavior as a retired Police Officer I've seen many cases that bear out what You say.
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