Posted on Jan 8, 2023
The Mental Health Effects of Holding a Grudge
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Holding a grudge is when you harbor anger, bitterness, resentment, or other negative feelings long after someone has done something to hurt you. Usually, it's in response to something that's already occurred, other times a grudge may develop after simply perceiving that someone is against you or means you harm—whether or not they actually do. Grudges also often feature persistent rumination about the person and/or incident at the center of your ill-will. But whatever your intentions or the cause of your bitterness, holding a grudge can end up hurting you as much as the person who inspired it.
Learn more about how clinging to anger can impact you, emotionally, physically, and socially, as well as how to begin to let go of your grudges and cope with anger in a healthier way.
Holding a grudge is when you harbor anger, bitterness, resentment, or other negative feelings long after someone has done something to hurt you. Usually, it's in response to something that's already occurred, other times a grudge may develop after simply perceiving that someone is against you or means you harm—whether or not they actually do. Grudges also often feature persistent rumination about the person and/or incident at the center of your ill-will. But whatever your intentions or the cause of your bitterness, holding a grudge can end up hurting you as much as the person who inspired it.
Learn more about how clinging to anger can impact you, emotionally, physically, and socially, as well as how to begin to let go of your grudges and cope with anger in a healthier way.
The Mental Health Effects of Holding a Grudge
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Anger
Mental Health
Wellness
Resiliency
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Holding a grudge is like holding a hot coal to throw at the other person, you get burned more than they do.
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SPC Jeff Daley, PhD
Are all the negative and sometimes extremely disparaging comments about Republicans the effects of holding a grudge? :)
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We call letting go of the grudge: grace. God forgives His grudge against you on the Cross and empty tomb; the least we can do is the same toward others!
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MSgt Dee Ann P.
This is true. I don’t hold a grudge but I cut them out of my circle. I don’t want to be around hateful people. And when Jesus told us to love each other, I believe it means we should pray for people, so I do — even those who have hurt me.
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1st Lt Padre Dave Poedel
MSgt Dee Ann P. - I agree. Sometimes geography and “unfriendliness” can lead to a decrease in the hate. Jesus said to love one another….sometimes it is necessary for the person who is causing you heartburn and distress. Oftentimes God restores relationships in way that surprise us. Other times He lets us spend the rest of our natural lives with a bit of distance.
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